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writes:I have a really mean boyfriend.He keeps blaming me for everything. He's so paranoid and keeps calling me names and it's getting harder and harder to endure. He's really sweet when he's nice but he's really terrible on his bad days. And I come home everyday so tired about this whole shit and having to handle him.I don't know if I still love him the way I did but I still do care for him and there are these major exams coming up. I'm afraid if I end the relationship now, he would lose all focus on the exams and flunk them. I don't really care so much if he blames me but I'm really worried about his future.People keep telling me I deserve better and everything , especially with me needing to focus on my own exams. But dumping him isn't easy and I really hope if there'd be a solution that could benefit both of us somehow. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): Hello! Doormat: It kind of looks as if you have one sick puppy in your relationship. You can't take him to the dog-pound cause he hasn't got four legs, and not too much between the ears either,as I see it. Why don't you look out for number one,"YOURSELF".You have a whole life ahead of you. And all he will do is mess up the now,and all of your tomorrows. It's time to kick him out of his nest of abusing you, and let him fly on his own, but don't look back to see if he has crasherd on the rocks of his own stupidity. You have gone more than the mile in taking his SH-T. So get out while to can, RUN,RUN,RUN.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (7 August 2007):
 I think you need to sit him down and talk to him about how you feel. Don't say "YOU DID THIS" or anything that really points the finger at him because he will get really defensive and probably turn into Hyde lol!
say things like "I feel that you don't respect me", sentences that start with "I feel" and "I think" will get you further than "You have been" and "you are".
If he doesn't change teh actions of his ways, I suggest you leave him because he doesn't try to respect you when he gets angry. And when you leave him, if he tries to get you back, tell him that he HAS to cut out all the b*llshit because you refuse to live with someone so disrespectful.
Take care xx
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reader, no_one_should_feel_that  +, writes (7 August 2007):
i know you are worried bout the exams and i would be to so i say just keep centeredon the exams right now and dont worry bout the dude till its over and if trys to fight with you the nsay look your a dick and i am a brick... you are starting to wear me down ... just leave me alone for awhile till after the exams... and then after tell him he has one last chance and if he fu*ks up again then tell him you dont like him anymore any just leave him ... i am a male of 15 and i was just like that treating every girl like shit .... till some one confronted me bout it ... some one i loved ...... i have changed and i am doing better now ...... just be the person he loves to confront him... but do it on a good day ...... just in case he gets mad cause then you wont set him off....
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (7 August 2007):
 Tell him if he continues taking his frustrations out on you, he is gonna be history. You don't need to take that crap. I lived with a guy for 7 years who was exacatly the same as your guy,he would be nice as pie one minute, the next he would lose his rag over something completely trivial, which made me feel 1cm small, I would be forever treading on egg shells. I left him exactly 3 years ago and it was the best thing I ever done, my confidence was shot to pieces by that jerk. You should never be someone's verbal punchbag. Find a guy who makes you feel like a princess not a piece of shit that he has scraped off his shoe. Good luck my love, Don't put up with it!!!!!
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