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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hey. I have a problem about sex. Thing is, I'm heterosexual but I have fooled around with a few girls and stuff. Now, lot's of guy's have said I'm good at giving....blowjobs. But I find that I prefer going down on women more, simply for the fact that women have a vagina and I prefer the fact that my tongue goes into something, not just around it. Wow, this is embarressing! But I'm not attracted to girls AT ALL. If this thing could do bold, underline and italics the last two words would have all of that. One day I convinced myself I was bisexual (considering I get turned on and immensely enjoy sex with men) so I went to a gay bar with a friend. I met a girl and we went back to her place. I couldn't get into it but I kept forcing myself to continue, thinking I had to get it over with and see for sure. I felt really awful afterwards. I really need your help with this and please don't be an asshole and just post some mean comment about how I'm a lesbian because I really don't think I am - I seriously got nothing out of it from the woman, apart from....that thing I'm talking about. Nothing turned me on, nothing made me moan and I really felt like an idiot. Could somebody please explain why this is? How do I like this part but not like being with a woman? When I have sex with guy's I really - and I mean really - enjoy it. Don't say I'm in denial, I was fine with being with a woman but it REALLY didn't do anything for me. Being a lesbian or gay is nothing to be ashamed of, if I wanted a woman I would gladly be with her if I liked her. Oh, that's a thing, I did really like the girl I slept with, but more as a friend than lover. I'm not just asking for reassurance here but I want to hear your views, even if they are bad and you think I'm in denial, I just need to hear what you guys think. Thanks to anyone who asnwers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): I don't see any big issue here either.
You sound like a basically straight girl who happens to also like vaginas. If you don't feel any attraction to the rest of the people who come attached to vaginas, then you'll have to stick to men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): if you like it, you like it..
dont think about what the label is or if ur gay or straight...
youll know once u find that girl/guy that turns you ON
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (22 March 2009):
 Perhaps you have an oral fixation, which is fairly common, but you said that you prefer sticking your tongue "into" a vagina, rather than licking or sucking a man. Right? But according to your post, you greatly enjoy sex with a man and feel no attraction toward girls. It simply sounds that you are possibly bisexual, for specific reasons and needs with different genders. If true, so what? Do as you wish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): the problem you have with sex is that you need to enjoy the moment not force yourself.as for being good at giving blow jobs,they all say that because you are doing all the work.the ones that say you are good,are they able to go down on you and make you come as they do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): Well I'm not sure what exactly the problem is. You like going down on girls but not the other parts of having sex with them (whatever that means). So that's that. You're straight but you like to go down on girls. It's kind of like saying that you aren't gay but you really like having anal sex (wait... no. that's not right. anyway)I wouldn't get so flustered trying to sort it out. Perhaps you are attracted to girls but haven't found one that actually turns you on yet? I know you said not to, but maybe, just maybe, you are in denial a little? It's hard to imagine liking cunnilingus without being bi/lesbian.But whatever, you don't need to put a label on it. Just enjoy yourself and don't be so perplexed at your own sexuality. Things get weird, and that's what makes it interesting! :D
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