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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been hitting on 8 months, but i'm too self-concious to let him see my vagina, we have sex often enough but i dont let him see it. how can i get over it, its like a phobia, i shake and go insane if he tries to go near it!And he also wants me to start going on top, i tried once when we were drunk and i couldnt do it, i didnt know how. i Seriously need help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): As usual, Phil hit it right on, along with his normal great humor. I also never found one that I didn't like, although my sampling is only a few. You sound like my wife our first time in bed when we were dating. She didn't want my face or eyes anywhere close to that region. She was also embarrassed when I saw her naked in the light the next morning. I thought to myself, "Your not embarrassed that we just screwed, but you're embarrassed for me to see you naked." I thought it was funny.
Let him down there. You will both love it. As for being on top, take Phil's and girlwhoneedshelp's advice. That's the way my wife and I do it. It may be somewhat difficult for him to find the right hole the first time. You should help to guide it in since you can feel where it is. That actually helps in any position.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): Any heterosexual male will find any woman's vagina a thing of delightful beauty, to be explored and played with, to be smelled and licked. Yours won't be any different, I can assure you.
You may think of it as that bloody nuisance that once a month causes you some irritation, discomfort and repulsion. He won't. He'll still think it's a gift from God, who in His wisdom put it there for his appreciation.
Put your phobia aside if you can. Invite your boyfriend to get a closer look and tell you what he thinks of it. You'll find that he'll be overjoyed at what he finds there.
As for getting on top, straddle him with your legs apart and kneel above him so that when you lower yourself he hits the target. Assist in the positioning of his penis if necessary so that he goes straight in as you lower youself onto him. Put your hands on his shoulders, then it's a simple case of rocking back and forth and listening to him telling you how good that feels.
When you're on top, you can position yourself so as to hit the spot for you.
Hope that helps.
Phil
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reader, blazee +, writes (20 October 2007):
 heya b=]
um.. i think that this is something that you will worry about now but not later in your life.
if you go along with it, everytime you do it it will get better untill eventually, you wont even think about it=]
there mite be a reason why you dont want him to see your vagina. try to identify it and realize it dosent matter, if he really loves you, he wont worry about it.
and with being on top, same as before. practice makes perfect, everytime you do it you will get better=]
good luck x
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reader, girlwhoneedshelp +, writes (20 October 2007):
 I can fully understand where you are coming from with having a "phobia" about your boyfriend seeing your vagina. It's a very private place and there won't be one woman out there who isn't self concious about it due to it being so varied. All women's vagina's look different so no one can really know what it is "meant" to look like. I suggest you just get it over with really quickly. If your boyfriend is a nice guy he will give you plenty of confidence boosts when he does get to see it and this should help you get over your phobia.
About the "on top" thing. I LOVE going on top so I could maybe give you some tips here. There are lots of different method hips wise. I love to just sway my hips forwards and backwards, sometimes like you do in dancing sexy. Or you can just move up and down on it. Start slowly at first and you will get more confident in time. ALSO if you really have no clue you could get on top and suspend yourself in the air whilst your boyfriend thrusts inside you. If you get used to having him going in and out in this position then you yourself can start to move along with him and then soon enough you can do it yourself! Good luck girlfriend! ;)xxxx
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