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writes:Ok so here the deal me and my ex broke up about 3 months ago and I'm really doing fine without her. It was rough for the first month or so but it's all good now, I've started dating another girl and she really seems to like me, apretiates me for who I am and she's much more sexually active than my ex was. That's not why I'm in this though. Anyhow it's just I still think about my ex a lot. I really miss her still. I just never loved anyone the way I loved her. I would've given anything for her. I tried all the time to show her how much she means to me. I got along great with her family, but in the end she left me for another guy. I just don't understand where I went wrong. I never mistreated her or anything. Any help would be great.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): Three months isn't a long time and it's natural you will still think of your ex because we can't just switch off from people just like that.
Just because you left her doesn't necessarily mean there is something wrong in the way you treated her, just that it was a mismatch.
Just go with the flow and gradually you will think less and less often about your ex. Life is like that - things aren't always resolved in our minds.
Enjoy your time with your new girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): Your first love is always the hardest to get over. My husband dated a girl for 4 years from 16-20. She ended up leaving him. And I met him several years after that. But he was still holding onto her when I first met him. It took time for him to let her go. But eventually he realized that just because she was his first, doesn't mean she was his best. And the beginning of the relationship he was always shocked how good I would treat him. Like your ex, his ex wasn't interested much in sex and she was pretty selfish. When he met me and I was interested in sex and was willing to give and take, he was so amazed. I know he still cares about her, but I know he loves me more than her.
It will take time to realize that a lot of the feelings you are feeling aren't just the love but wishing you had another chance to try again. But don't get too lost in those thoughts cause they just make you not see what you have. And it makes the memory of your ex girlfriend seem so much better than it was.
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