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30-35,
anonymous
writes:He's the guy in the year above, the one that everyone thinks is cocky and over confident (which to some extent is true). Do I go for it at a party in about a week by telling him/trying to hook up with him or do I leave it? I've known him for about a year but only as an acquaintance, its this last month that a friendship has formed and also my major crush on him. I just don't want to weird out our friendship, we are not too close but are mates. We've been getting closer lately, spending our frees together, extra curricular activities etc.help pleeeaassee!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2008): If you want something more out of this friendship, something that's really worth it, don't let him see you as a mere hook-up. We guys can be very rational and we can tell the difference between a girl that's "just for fun" and someone that could be "the one".
It's not always true, of course, but women do tend to mix both concepts... emotionally.
So please, don't approach him as the "femme fatale" during some random party, be wiser and wait for this relationship to develop naturally.
The activities you both do together, is a great example of this. Keep it going, without forcing anything. Just enjoy those times and relax... it's the only way to be authentic.
He will value you much more if you do, and even if things don't end up exactly the romantic way you thought them to end up like, a good friendship is always better than a lousy 2-months-or-less hook up...
ps. Just remember, trust takes time.
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