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writes: My husband is causing me such a big pain. I can't figure him out.. We live together long time ago, and he is really a nice man. I'm sure many woman would love to have a nice husband like him , he is not a cheater a drinker and he is nice to his children. Well, thats all sounds really nice so far, but now ,it gets complicated here. He works all the time, and he has hard time to make any changes on this, even he promised many times ,that he will. Now this was a long lasting problem, that he buried himself to work, but now a few years ago he become impotent , and we have hardly anything left from our loving sex-life. He has no medical problems, its checked out very deeply. So now I feel very strange , I don't know what to think. We saw psychologists about this, but he has nothing to say... He says ,he has no secrets ,no problems, no bad feelings toward me. Yet, he seems more and more distant, and closed in to himself. I said, please tell me a ''secret'' if you have any, just kiddingly. I heard its a fact ,that we all have some secrets, I told some of mine to him... But he said , ''I have no secrets, you know everything about me'' So thats it, he won't say anything to me, or anybody. So there is no reason, to keep asking him. Yet, I feel-SOMETHING VERY SERIOUS IS GOING ON INSIDE HIM,AND I'M SCARED THAT IT WILL COME OUT ON A VERY PAINFUL WAY.. Is anybody have any idea what to do with a man like that? The best description of him is passive aggressive. I just don't feel good with him, and I ;m afraid he will put me thru ,something very painful. So what can I think ? Reply to this Question
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reader, andrew2008  +, writes (3 October 2008):
At first i would've thought he is cheating. But your woman's intuition would have red flagged it.
He may have Passive-aggressive type personality but the more you try 2 get it out of him the worse it gets.
Also remember a man's DNA is programmed to reproduce (from canveman days). Therefore not able 2 reproduce is probably the most stressful situation he will ever be.
So give him time and let him know you are there for him.
And pliz DON'T paste and nag him. Let him know you're there for her.
Anyways, thats just my 2 pennys worth...
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