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writes:it's not a relationship question but I don't know who else to ask. a few weeks ago my supervisor told the human resources he no longer wished to work with me (some sort of misunderstanding happened and he thinks I screwed up, which I didn't but he hasn't seen or spoken to me since to hear my side of the story, tbh he never thought I was good at what i did and never gave me the more complex stuff to do, or taught me anything, so Id don't really care not working with him anymore). But now I am idle, I still have a job, but I don't have a role, I go to work but don't really work, because so far no one wants me in their team. I was already planning on leaving this job, but first I want to get another one, but I haven't yet applied for any jobs because everything else that came up wasn't compatible with my schedule at uni. My parents still support me and I don't really need the money but I am very unsure whether I should just quit or not. I am afraid they'll fire me and everyday I fear that will happen, it has a lot to do with pride because I want to be the one who quits, like I did in every other job before. tbh lately the thought of leaving the house to go to work has been giving me a lot of anxiety and some days I just don't want to leave the bed dreading going to work, so I don't know what to do...
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (9 May 2014):
 Hi OPYou cant rely on your parents forever and jobs are hard to find. Its even harder to find a job if you have been fired from your most recent employment, cant use your previous company to give you a good reference or leave every job you have after a short while. We live in tough economic times. Jobs are far less secure now and finding work is tough, keeping it even tougher. Your studying at Uni to get a career when you have finished your studies, but although qualifications are important, so is real work experience and demonstrating that you can work as part of a team, handle misunderstandings and interpersonal problems and hold down a steady job.Before you move on to another job you need to ensure you don't repeat the same mistakes or situations as has happened in your current job. We all have problems at work and we all endure misunderstandings, accusations and office politics. How WE deal with that can make a huge difference to our careers, the types of job s we can get and how happy we are with our working lives.if you keep quitting your jobs then potential employers will be put off taking you on out of fear that you will walk out a few weeks down the line. Plus it doesn't look good in an interview if you say "I walked out of my last job because my supervisor refused to work with me and nobody liked me."You need to understand how this situation at work has arisen. If nobody wants to work with you and the manager wont talk to you maybe there is something you are doing wrong to make that happen? You need to learn to set the record straight in a professional way if you are wrongly accused of screwing up. You also need to learn to get people on your side in the workplace. If nobody wants you on there team then maybe you need to think about how you act and behave for that to happen. If the company fails to train you adequately or doesn't make the best us of your skills then its up to you to do something about it. Giving up wont do you any good. Talk to Human Resources. Make an appointment with someone who is maybe a manager but independent to this situation. Act with maturity, dignity and professionalism and explain calmly why its a misunderstanding and that you feel excluded because nobody want you on there team. If your manager didn't think you were very good at what you did then why is that? Please don't just assume he is an arsehole or just doesn't like you. It may well be that you yourself are giving off the wrong impression or genuinely doing things wrong and repeating those mistakes. Even if you quit, going somewhere else and doing the same things may well lead to a similar situation. The job market is ultra competitive. Once you have been offered a job, its then a struggle to keep it. So many companies now will fire people who are not pulling there weight, make too many mistakes, etc. Its up to YOU to ensure people can see how hard working, dedicated and good you are at your job. If you have a problem you need to sort it out straight away. Don't just give up to the point where your likely to be fired for not making enough effort. If you want a ROLE rather than just a JOB then it wont fall into your lap. You need to earn it. Make the effort with the CV, apply for suitable jobs and make sure you quickly fit in with the team. They may not be people you would normally mix with, they may be older with nothing in common but that's part of life. ideally you need to speak to Human Resources and try to solve this. At the same time apply for other jobs and try to keep your current one until you find something else. Mark
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (9 May 2014):
So quit and go find another job. Why isn't that the obvious choice to you?
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