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writes:I'm so depressed right now. There's so much trouble withmy boyfriend of 5 years. He's not the same with once we knew each other. He's busy with his friends and we are rarely see each other. How to make him miss me and excited about me again?Please give me some idea. Thanks..
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (9 May 2014):
 Ts is not a serious proposal...How to make a man fall in love = bring beer, show up naked and don't stand in front of the TV. If he's not interested after 5 years you may have seen the best times in the rear view mirror and it might be time to move on down the road to find someone new.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2014): So_very_confused is right... If you choose not to break up with him then get busy doing your own stuff, don't call or text him and let him come to you. And don't jump when he calls! Unfortunately to make men miss us we have to ignore them ... So are men.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 May 2014):
 OP this is not a suggestion on how to make him miss you. If he rarely sees you as it is, then he already has the chance to miss you. I'm sorry to say this but I think there is not a way to salvage what is already pretty much a dead relationship.
I'm going to suggest that after 5 years at a young age that the relationship may have run it's course and instead of trying to make him miss you, you end it with him since he's not even making an effort to be with you.
The truth is that a woman who has a man interested in her doesn't have to do ANYTHING other than breathe to have him be interested.
Of course if you break up with him and really do go out and meet new folks he may come after you for a bit but it would only be temporary.
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (9 May 2014):
 HI OPIt sounds as if the two of you have drifted apart and he is no longer making much effort. To be honest this is very common in couples in there early to mid twenties who have been together since their teens. You have been with your BF five years and in that time you have both changed an awful lot. You have gone from being teenagers to becoming adults. The two of you have matured, grown up and gained a lot of life experience over the last few years, and your needs and situation has probably changed too. What you want from a friendship and relationship NOW is going to be different from what you wanted when you first got together. You don't state your age but as you are between 22 and 25 so you would have got together with your BF between the age of around 17 and 19? Back then you were both teenagers basically "playing relationships". Now the two of you are adults in your early to mid twenties and have probably either matured at different rates or grown apart as life shapes you into a more worldly wise, realistic adult with different expectations. Or maybe he simply feels that by being in a relationship with the same person for the whole of his adult life, he has missed out on being free and on doing young things like seeing his mates. I think you need to really think about how this relationship has got to this point. If he has changed, or you have changed and he has not, and the two of you are no longer on the same page, then maybe its best to move on. He doesn't sound like he wants to make much effort and is seeing his friends presumably without you far too much for your liking. You could tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels. If he genuinely loves you and cares for you, (And just as importantly wants to stay with you and make it work), then he will make more effort. If he doesn't theres your answer.
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