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writes:I've been having sex with one of my best friends, but he doesn't want a relationship. We see each other every few days, and pretty much act like a couple. My concern is, I have a huge jealousy issue, and it's always in the back of my mind that he can be with someone else, and I wouldn't have any reason to be upset, though I know I would be because I've grown very attached to him, as this "relationship" has been going on a few months now. I dunno what to do, I want to be with him, but how do I overcome this. ;-; Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): You're feeling like a normal female in your situation. And he's feeling like a normal male. The problem is that these two feelings aren't the same. You want a relationship. You could push for it now. Maybe you'll get it or maybe you won't. I will say that it didn't help that he was getting you in the sack without having to commit already. He's not gonna be eager to start giving up more for what he was already getting for less.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Reading this question, I realized that you two do have a relationship. It's just not the one you really want. If you were fine with just leaving it at sex, then there would be no problem. But the thing is, you want more. And he's not willing to give you that. I'm sure he's quite happy with the sex and not being responsible to another person, a partner.
Me in your shoes? I'd tell him that while I might enjoy the sex, I just realized that I want more out of life, and don't want to continue the casual sex, as it was keeping me from finding a guy who wanted to be a real boyfriend.
This guy is going to mess with your head until you realize that he's not really the guy you want. He might be hot, he might be all that you want in a boyfriend, but if he's not reciprocating, then he's not really the guy for you right now.
Don't hand him your heart, he hasn't a clue what to do with it. Sorry for the harsh words, but this is a 'cover your heart, Indy, cover your heart!' post if I ever saw one.
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