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writes:Hi,I am a 23 year old girl who has a huge crush and doesn't know what to do. I have had a crush on my boss since I started working at my job five months ago. He is about five years older than me and I don't think that's a bad age difference, but he is engaged to be married in November of this year. I know if a guy is taken they're off limits, but with him I can't help myself! I think about him all the time. I have dreams about him every night. I'm always in such a good mood when I work with him. He gives me a hug when I come in and asks me how I'm doing. He's constantly joking around with me and will usually sit up front and talk to me while I'm on my shift. What should I do? Should I try to ignore the feelings that I have for him? Or should I tell him? I really really like him! I get butterflies every time I think about him and I think about him all the time. I would be one very happy girl if I could have a relationship with him outside of work! Any advice would be much appreciated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): just dont go there. Think if something happened between the two of you would that make you happy. i think not..you'd end up being stuck in a relationship were it would be completely one sided, do u honestly think that he would leave his finace for a meaningless office romance, and even if he did would you really want that. how would you feel if someone seduced your man. i think that what your really feeling is loneliness. you miss the attention and affection of someone. your still young go out and enjoy yourself, you'll sonn meet someone, and this 'lust' you seem to have for this man will soon disappear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): They're all right... there's little else to say. When you have two such impossible facts standing between you and Mr (Most Probably Wrong)... you're caught between a rock and a hard place.
He's engaged. Let the guy marry... Good Luck...
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reader, Miss Potter  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Hi there, well, I think its just a crush...
Your options:
1) You tell him how you feel, most probably nothing will change, he will still get married, and you will feel rejected and this might result in you leaving your job.
2) You tell him and you end up having an affair with him
3) You do not tell him, try to think of him as an off limits targer, and focus on something else - do gym, take up jogging, or some art classes, or whatever might take your mind off him.
Its just a crush, how do you know that when hes not in the office he is the same as he is with you. You only see him when he is acting professional in the office, you might be totally unsuitable for each other.
Anyway, if it was me, I would try to find an easier prey :) and let the poor guy marry.
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reader, gayuncleandy  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Firstly, he is engaged, secondly, he is your boss. He is unavailable on two levels. I think you will have to love him from a distance and try to get over it. This will be hard to do, maybe you could focus on an annoying trait he has and if you can't find one, focus on the fact that he is so perfect and unavailable (the bastard!).
Hands off, he's taken. Oh, and he's your boss.
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