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writes: Okie-dokie.I'm currently 16 and at school there is this boy who is really giving me mixed signals!! It started about a year ago when we were put in some of the same classes for GCSES's and its grown from there. He's one of the popular crowd (I say popular, I don't mean the really mean total a*shole popular crowd, but the actual POPULAR crowd, as in; he's totally loved by everyone) and I'm sort of . . . quiet. I get on with most people and both of the popular crowds don't have a problem with me, but I sort of drift about. If that makes sense.Anywho, this guy (lets call him Ollie) is really quite amazing looking (sunbleached hair because he surfs, small six pack for the same reason, and so on and so forth) and I don't mean to sound vain, but I'm a lot prettier than most of the popular girls since I'm quite individual and haven't followed the trends. To give you an idea, I'm classically Norwegian looking since my parents are Norwegian and I was born there but moved when I was 2.To the main point in question, I sit next to him in Maths and a couple of other lessons (but this stuff mostly happens in maths) and he's always flirting (at least, I thoink its flirting). He's always stroking my hair (its nearly down to my hips and blonde so I don't know if it's because he's attracted to it because he's got a blackbird complex, or whatever) and poking and tickling me. He's quite fond of stroking my back, arm and head and he did this thing where he held me by my neck (not in a rough way, but more like the way people are about to kiss in films) and just stared at me for about 30 seconds whilst I blushed furiously and laughed: 'Uh, Ollie, what are you doing?'He's also always playing with this hairband I wear on my wrist and we've got this reciprocal thing where we help each other with our maths.He also asked me to last year's ball in a jokey way (at least I think he was jokning) and I said no because 1. I didn't want to say yes in front of a load of people and 2. I hurt a lot and couldn't be bothered to go to the ball.He also occasionally says 'Anna* . . .' and I say 'what?' then he says 'I love you' and he says it in a kind of kid voice so I say 'good for you' instead of saying it back and it REALLY CONFUSES ME! since there are some of the mean popualar girls in my class and they laugh and snicker when he does these things sometimes so I'm kind of scared that there's just one big prank going on.Hes also got a massive heart problem and he has to take a lot of medication and I think he likes to relate to me on that subject since I'm on massive pain meds (broke a load of bones, mucked up some nerves and got bone cancer, although nobody knows about the last but. How lucky am I? :/ )I'm really sorry for the ramble, but I wanted to be specific so I got a straight answer.Please someone, tell me what on earth to do! I rebuff these 'advances' (if you call them that) but I don't want to since I do happen to have a crush on him, but I am absolutely TERRIFIED of being humiliated if it does happen to be a prank or if he doesn't feel the same way. He's a touchy-felly kind of person and he only acts like this to a few girls but I don't think he's as this strong with other girls.Oh man. Please help, thank you xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): Hhmm... sounds tricky. How about next time he says he loves you, give him a pained/annoyed look and tell him it's not something he should joke about... It ought to provoke something...
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reader, nanarial  +, writes (8 February 2010):
 Next time he says he loves you, ask him if he's joking or serious. if your in a big group you could wait or pass him a note or something. But, it sounds to me that he really likes you. If he was just pranking you he wouldn't have kept doing it after you said no about the ball. I don't think he is pranking you. The only guy who has ever played with my hair is my boyfriend and i can't imagine someone doing it just to set up a prank. unless he is a total jerk to other people around school or tells lots of girls he loves them i would say you are safe with assuming that he's into you.
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