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writes:i've gotten myself into a terrible situation and i need advice, please.i have been with my girlfriend for two years now. she's been very good to me and treated me well. i know she would move mountains for me if she could. and she's a great parental figure to my son who loves her like a mother. she's always been reliable and always been trustworthy. she never lies to me and i can count on her to be stable and dependable. on the other hand, she's never really done all of the little things i always felt i needed in a relationship. the sweet notes, the little things people do to show they care and appreciate you. and i felt like something was missing. unfortunately i met someone else behind her back who instantly started giving me all of those little things i needed. the attention, sweet little things i needed all along. it made me wonder why my girlfriend of two years couldn't do those things for me if someone else could immediately start doing them no problem. i had an emotional and physical relationship with this other girl while still with my girlfriend (wrong i know), and now i've gotten myself into a huge dilemma. i can't decide who i need to be with.one one hand, i have this girl who i know would never betray me and i already have so much history with and i know i can always trust and is a parent to my child, and on the other hand i have this girl that makes me smile and gives me the little things i need to feel appreciated, but i don't know if i can trust her or if she'll be a good parent, and be the responsible girlfriend i'd need her to be. what do i choose? please help! i'm so torn! Reply to this Question
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reader, cmarieky +, writes (13 July 2011):
The grass isn't always greener on the other side. A relationship is about compromise, no two people will be able to satisfy one another 100%. You have to be willing to negotiate what's most important. If your gf is stable, supportive, loving, committed, honest, considerate and family orient what are u complaining about???? My gf is the total opposite of ur gf. But our sex is amazing. But nothing else.... You seem like you want instant gratification. I say this, leave ur current gf and hookup with the chic u already have on the side so your amazing gf can actually meant wonderful women like me who wouldn't take her for granted. So go ahead, dump her. An incredible woman like you describe I'm sure she wouldn't be single long. Newayz best wishes
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2011): as a cheater u have the best of both worlds.....
your gf seems too good to be true.you on the other hand seem very needy and need affirmation...... why?
bottom line: you cheated. better break it off with your gf because she deserves so much better. she is a good person and she doesnt deserve this betrayal.
as for theother woman - does she know that u are in a committed relationship? if she does and she still cheated then well, it speaks volumes of her.
LoveGirl
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2011): You want to have the best of both worlds. Understandable, but it doesn't usually works this way. You choose to find little things like notes important enough to get involved with another woman. Oof course new relationship is always more exciting than old ones, because it's new.
Noone but you can decide what to do. I guess the choice needs to be made : lifetime partner or a series of flings that make you smile. Or you can have both. Some people choose this lifestyle. They marry and have flings their whole life. Usually it brings them a bunch of trouble, but some don't stop. Good luck.
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