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writes:please help me!! i am with my fiance for 2.5 yrs and i am not comfortable being naked in front of him and i hate it when he touch's me too agressively epecially my breasts but he thinks i should just suck it up and say nothing and just let him do what he wants regardless how i feel. I think i need a confidence boost to help with the naked thing but he says that he's fed up waitin for me to relax with him and won't help me to relax. he just starts arguements about it and calls me names. please give me some advice on what to do?? i don't know where i stand!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondear flatpack84
thank you for your answer and i feel you understand me to a cerain extent but i know the reason why he is lik that.. he is lovable and kind and caring 85% of the time, and he loves me so much and i love him. i am trying to help ovecome some seroius trauma from his past but when he gets drunk he lets everything get on top of him. i am not making excuses for him but i just needed some advice on how to deal with him - not dump him. i feel that dumping him is taking the easy way out and i love him too much for that. he wont let anybody else help him-won't even speak to any one else about himself. none of his family even have a clue whats going on!! he might be short-tempered and cruel sometmes but i can't give up on him as he has made some amazing changes since i first met him but sometimes it's like he goes back into the old him...
but thank you anyway for your advice
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reader, flatpack84  +, writes (10 February 2007):
 Your partner is a selfish bully, he should be dumped immediately! Your self esteem will only be worsened the longer you stay with this guy and I know you deserve better.Has your attitude towards yourself changed since you have been going out with him? Has you self esteem got worse in this time because of the way he treats you? We all have hang ups about ourselves (mine is my tummy!) but try to embrace your body and think about your bes features, make yourself proud :DOne final thing, if noting else you say you dislike it when he treats you roughly - do not put up with this. He osunds aggressive and he should be avoided. Know one deserves to be cruel or physically abusive to any one else.Good luck and I wish you all the best. Be strong :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2007): You don't need this guy in your life. Get rid. He's not worth being with if he doesn't understand your uncomfortableness being naked in front of him. You need to get out of this relationship before you get married to this guy and then start regretting that you didn't dump him before marriage. You have a low self-esteem anyway without him making it even worse. Find another guy who will understand your problems with being naked in front of guys. The last thing you need is someone who doesn't understand you and calls you names over it.
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