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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating the same woman for 3 years now. An incredible relationship. I truly love her inside and out she is my best friend and I truly trusted her with everything until a week ago. She feels the same way about me, I am certain. We had a fight about 3 weeks ago and we decided not to see each other for a little while. I was the one who decided it and in my mind it was a break. She did not see it that way. She was very hurt and did not understand why we were breaking up. We both decided that we were going to break up. In both of our minds we were not together. We did not speak for 2 weeks and I was on a business trip and started to initiate conversation with her telling her that I missed her and she was very receptive but skeptical. I understood. A couple of days went by and we did not speak. I sent her a few text messages and she would respond back telling me that she wanted to continue conversation. She was on a business trip and one of the days we spent the whole day texting back and forth with great meaning and dialogue. It felt great. She went to dinner with colleagues and we were texting back and forth during dinner. She was on the west coast and I was on east coast. Then she sent me a text at 1230 my time and I was a sleep. I woke up about 1250 and text her back and got no response. I waited 10 min and sent another one. No response. I then tried to call. On the first call it rang twice and she hit the ignore button. I then call twice more and the phone rang through both times. Then I left a message for her. I then got a text message from her stating that she had fallen asleep and went into great detail that the she did not hear the phone vibrate, it was still on silent from the meeting. I knew she was not telling me the truth. I waited until she got home from the trip to confront her about it. She came home and we went out for dinner. Everything was great...she spent the night and the next morning she could tell I was thinking about it. I asked her why she hit ignore on the phone. She knew she had not told the truth. She sat back and paused for a while and then proceeded to tell me that she was tired and did not want to talk but could not tell me that for fear that it would hurt my feelings. I immediately jumped to that she was out with some other guy. She was calm but offended that I would think that of her just three weeks after we broke up. I still don't believe her story that she was too tired. I still feel like I have not gotten the whole story. It is not her to just hit ignore on the phone. She has NEVER lied to me before. It hurts. My gut tells me that she was with another guy. I don't know if I can take feeling like this. I don't have any hard evidence that she did anything wrong. But I still feel like she is not telling me the truth. When I asked her to tell me the story again she was willing to and she went into great detail as to what happened. She says it was a white lie. Then she would get upset and say crying..." I lied to you and I am sorry but I don't know if I can live with you thinking that I am not being honest with you now". I am really torn on what to do? She is telling me and showing me that she really wants our relationship to work. I have a feeling like she messed up one time and now that I am chasing her she wants to make it work. Should I do it? Will I ever trust her again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2010): You need the truth. You're not the one keeping a secret here.
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (3 March 2010):
 Love is a many splendered thing, according to one song i just heard., If you really love her from the bottom of your heart. Theres always a room for forgiveness. Either its true or not, forgive and forget and move on.. Yesterday is a History, today is here & now, reality, Tommorow is Mystery. Love her now before you end up and feel sorry, love her now before its late. Goodluck...
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