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writes:I met an actor, who i have a crush on, after a show I saw him in. We are the same age. Me and my friend went for a drink with him afterwards. Some of the other cast members were in the pub too, but most of them left before he did. At one point,he was turned towards me and put his foot on the bottom of the stool I sat on, although he didnt sit that way for long. I just wondered if that body language might have meant anything. I wish i had noticed more of his body language too. I also told him i wanted to go and see the show again,and he mentioned that it was on in another town nearby soon, and i mentioned going to see it in the area he lives in, and he said we could go to the bars around there too. I didnt mention meeting up after the show if i saw it there, he mentioned that himself.When i was leaving, he gave me a hug, although he gave my friend a hug too, but he also smiled,a wide smile, and stared at me.I didnt get to stay there as long as i would have liked because i dont live close to the area, and i hadnt arranged somewhere to stay around there, so i had to go home. However,next time, i will stay overnight in a hotel, then i can hang around longer.I'm not sure whether to ask him if he wants to meet again when i see the show again, or just go around to the stage door next time and see what he wants to do. I'd also like to tell him how i feel about him, but i would find it difficult. I'll mention that i'm staying in a hotel though, so he knows i wont have to go straight home.The thing is,he looked pretty close to another cast member, which i noticed as she was leaving the pub, but i'm not sure if there is something going on with them or not.So, i'm wondering what he thinks of me, although it's probably to hard to tell yet, and i'm wondering if i should say anything about me fancying him when i next see him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): I know he isn't gay, as he was put on the website we are intouch on that he is interested in women,as you can put what your relationship status is,and which gender you are interested in e.t.c,and as i said,he seemed pretty close to this other female cast member, but i'm not sure if there is anything going on with them.
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reader, Rogerramjet  +, writes (19 June 2009):
Not much to add to that hasn't already been said, other then just a general warning:
I hate to generalize, but there are an AWFUL lot of male actors out there who are gay. Be prepared for that possibility.
I know the that in the one drama course i took when i was in university, i got an AWFUL lot of attention from the ladies in the class. (much more then i was used to!) Eventually i learned that the reason for that was because i was the only straight guy there!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): Sorry if i've posted this twice.I wasnt sure if it sent the first time.Do you think it was ok that i sent a message saying thanks for a brilliant night,and that i'll let him know when i see the show again ?.I thought that was a nice thing to say.I agree that its too early yet to say what he thinks of me.I'm not sure if i should mention anything online, it may be better in person.It's only a couple of months until i will see him again.After meeting him, i do genuinely want to get to know him as a person, and not just because he is an actor.He is a very kind,down to earth person,and meeting him made me like him even more !.I'm thinking of booking to see the show on the saturday next time,as it will be the casts day off work the next day,and they will probably have a big night out.He mentioned they were having a big night out this saturday.It's good timing aswell, because that will be a couple of days before his birthday !.I know this because we are also intouch online.So perhaps i could mention something about it being near his birthday and ask if they are planning on doing anything that night.I'm going to wait at least a couple of weeks until i contact him again, just to leave some time before i speak to him again.Do you think i should book the tickets and hotel first,and then mention to him that i have booked them,and se what he says,or do you think i should ask him if he'd like to meet again,and then book the hotel and tickets after that ?.I think we should stay in a hotel whether we meet him again or not though as the place we will see the show in isn't close to where we live.As i said,i could be going to see the show two more times.My mum wants to see the show too,and my friend who i went with the other night wants to see it again. My mum said if she goes though she will leave me to it when i hang around with them,as all the cast are around my age,so she could feel out of place.I'm also not sure how to tell him i like him,if i do tell him.It's quite difficult since we will have only met after the shows .I have even had trouble telling people i know more,and who live closer to me, how i feel about them in the past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): Do you think it was ok that i sent a message saying thanks for a brilliant night,and that i'll let him know when i see the show again ?.I thought that was a nice thing to say.
I agree that its too early yet to say what he thinks of me.I'm not sure if i should mention anything online, it may be better in person.It's only a couple of months until i will see him again.
After meeting him, i do genuinely want to get to know him as a person, and not just because he is an actor.He is a very kind,down to earth person,and meeting him made me like him even more !.
I'm thinking of booking to see the show on the saturday next time,as it will be the casts day off work the next day,and they will probably have a big night out.He mentioned they were having a big night out this saturday.It's good timing aswell, because that will be a couple of days before his birthday !.I know this because we are also intouch online.So perhaps i could mention something about it being near his birthday and ask if they are planning on doing anything that night.
I'm going to wait at least a couple of weeks until i contact him again, just to leave some time before i speak to him again.Do you think i should book the tickets and hotel first,and then mention to him that i have booked them,and se what he says,or do you think i should ask him if he'd like to meet again,and then book the hotel and tickets after that ?.I think we should stay in a hotel whether we meet him again or not though as the place we will see the show in isn't close to where we live.
As i said,i could be going to see the show two more times.My mum wants to see the show too,and my friend who i went with the other night wants to see it again. My mum said if she goes though she will leave me to it when i hang around with them,as all the cast are around my age,so she could feel out of place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): Aw.. sounds sweet.. and not to mention like a dream come true!
I would wait, honestly, on telling him. You don't want to overwhelm him or make him think you are clingy or just into him because he's an actor.
Let him get to know you a little so that he can develop him own feelings first.
And asking him ahead of time, if possible, to meet after the show would, in my opinion, be a good idea. You wouldn't want to show up at the stage door and he's made previous arragements would you?
~SY.
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