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writes: What can I do? I just broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. He was my first boyfriend. We had our issues, he was jealous of my past, and I became increasingly insecure, I don't know why. Lately I'd become a bit "bitter" as he said and he said I was too serious and not too fun. I realize that in the last year I started hating sexual jokes, that TV is filled with sex, I aslo don't get what's so great about drinking and partying, and I also don't get what's so funny about stupid humour (like fart jokes and such). I don't know I didn't mind these things before, but lately I get upset by the smallest things. He said this has been wearing the relationship out, that' he's tired of dealing with it and he feels more distant every day, like his feelings for me are starting to cool off.So I dumped him, how can I move on? I feel miserable, I hate myself and I hate that he probably will get a bubbly, super fun girlfriend soon. Someone better than me. Everyone seems to be better than me. I don't know why I'm bitter and how to stop it, I just know that I'm not as cheerful as I used to be and feel very miserable right now. My ego is bruised too, because of what he said to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): I can relate to so much of what you said. I, too, am in a similiar situation, however, we've been married for almost two years. Each day that passes by, I realize how different we are. I try so hard to talk to him, but he just doesn't listen. He believes by not talking, the problems will go away. Leaving me very bitter and unfulfilled in our relationship and every other aspect of our life together. I can see every day how miserable I make him and I've even begged him for a divorce, but he doesn't believe in it and he refuses to leave. So, together we move forward fighting every step of the way. You are very lucky you didn't marry him, somehow I know you will find a person who brings out the best in you and will make you happy. I only wish I had waited for that same opportunity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): Oh wow you sound just like me....I hated anything sexual and even jerking off disgusts me now and I just broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years. He was the same as your boyfriend and immature and insensitive.Im still taking time to recover as it was a month ago so please mail me to see if we can get through this together or if you have any questions. i believe i will get over this as i am already over him and have become strong and responsible in myself because of this. i know i dont love him anymore so it was easy to let go...well quite easy.i dont know what to say to make you feel better just that it takes time to heal but you will get your confidence back.trust me.
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