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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi,I recently joined a fitness club and also took personal training sessions. My personal trainer is good looking and cute while I'm juz a normal looking overweight girl trying hard to loose weight. I have started fallen for him and I think I have a big crush on him! But I juz do not know how to tell him. He seems to be very professional and dedicated to work. I used to sms him when I don't go to gym.yesterday I tried giving him some hints but did not really tell him how I felt. He seems to be blur (not sure whether he is pretending). And he did not reply my sms after I told him tht I feel confused. Today morning I asked him if he is free to talk and he replied to me saying tht he is always there for me. Than when I started again to give him hint he said dun make his head spin! Den later he called me and asked me whether i'm attending his session tomorrow..I juz don't know whether he really doesnt know my feelings or he juz pretends not to noe coz of my physical appearance! Pls help me! I'm heart broken and confused at the same time! Shall I juz confront him????
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reader, Ra Isis  +, writes (11 February 2010):
Love, I had 100% prosent the same story. It took me 1 year of my life to realise that it was all in my mind. I actually went to dinner with him and we became friends. Yes he is human too but baby forget about all this childish pink pretty bullshit opinions that other gave you, the truth is this. He is haunted by you and another 50 girls, he knows this, he gives all of you the same reply...get real. I know it hurts lke shit but I am only telling you because I don t want you to waste a year of your life like I did. Ask yourself: Does he ever get out of the gym with you, does he ever call you, without you calling him? If he does not then he is not interested. He is a man and a professional, if he is interested he will take you outside of the gym and try to know you. If you do like I did and haunt him in a smart way, yes you will get close to him, but it takes a long time and after 1 year you realise that you are only friends, you are not going to become lovers, ever. Do what you want, this is my opinion. Change gym!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007): I had a crush on my physiotherapist. I also had a crush on my hairdresser for a while. Then it dawned on me that actually I was getting emotionally attached to men that cared about me or pampered me or made me feel special in one way or another. It was about attention and I was obviously lonely (despite being in a relationship). Once I'd realised this I decided I could still enjoy the attention but what I really needed was to find a more fulfilling relationship. Take a step back and think about your emotions and try and identify what it is that you are really falling for.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (15 October 2007):
 hi
the main thing for you to do right now, is pull your self together, stop and think, you are making a mistake, this guy is your trainer and some times when people are nice towards you or even me, we pick up signals that are not there, you can believe this person fancy you, but in fact he may not, to him it is just a job, all the woman in your class may have the same feelings as yourself, but it will not mean a thing to him, human beings are a strange breed, some one treats us with respect, is nice to us, smiles at us, then we imagine there is a link between us, but i am sorry to tell you most of the time there are not, if he had wanted to he would have sms you back and said something but because he did not then i think you are wasting your time, try and put these feelings behind you, i now it is hard in the cold light of day, the worst thing that could happen is he will refuse to be your trainer, maybe you should choose another trainer, some one that you do not fancy, for your own peace of mind to to stop hurting yourself over this trainer, when the right person come along you will forget this person and then you will be in a wonderful place, for sake of your sanity give this person up.
good luck
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reader, angelblueeyes +, writes (15 October 2007):
 Hi, This seems to me like a playing hard to get situation but only you know if he does like you, there must be some signs that he is into you? i think if you talk to him and maybe then tell him how you feel, whats the worst that can happen? I hope it all goes well for you and good luck x
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