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30-35,
*ulliepeter
writes:hey guys i work ina hospital and my boss and the wife are strict people who are very rich and are good christians.so now i developed feelings for their son who is our adminstrator i can't stop thinking about him when he comes to work i feel nice. When he is around me i feel nervous and shaky.Just th other day he called me to his office to give me a ecertain form and i was shaking and very nervous.what do i do how do i act in front of him to avoid looking slutty or suggestive as he is a serious man?
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (12 April 2013):
 OP, that's REALLY good advice from WiseOwlE!
Take care of yourself; let us know how it goes, if you like.
Good luck!
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (12 April 2013):
Well, its natural to feel attracted to certain men. Just keep in mind that he IS the son of your boss and you need to be appropriate in your behavior - I'm not saying you're NOT appropriate now!What I AM saying is that as much as possible you need to rein in your imagination and refuse to constantly think about him and how nice he is. I know that isn't necessarily easy when you're obsessed with someone, but YOU CAN DO IT!You're at work: therefore your primary responsibility is to do the best job within your power and to be pleasant, polite and courteous - but not to overdo it!How do you think you might look "slutty or suggestive"? Is it the way you dress, maybe? Very short skirts and low necklines, and/or heavy makeup?? If so, try dressing a little differently, and by all means, use makeup, but with a lighter touch while at work, perhaps.Lastly, IF at some point you are no longer working at the hospital and wanted to get to know him in an outside setting, then that would be different.Its just not a good idea to date someone you work with (too many problems if you do and the "romance" goes wrong!)Hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2013): You just behave professionally. You don't do anything out of the ordinary; because he has shown no interest in you. You are just a young woman with a crush. I'm not exactly sure of what you mean by looking slutty and acting suggestive?How do you normally behave when you're at work? You carry yourself with dignity and class. You dress appropriate for work. You can look extra nice when you like. You shouldn't act peculiar to draw attention to yourself. As you said; the boss and his wife are strict, they expect their son to set a positive example for other employees.How should you act? Be a model employee. Be confident, punctual, organized, proficient at your tasks, and polite. These things get noticed.Your crush will fade over time. You'll get used to him. Don't place him on a pedestal. He may have a better position; but he is just an ordinary man with a few more privileges. He's just as nervous as you are, his parents watch every move he makes and analyze all his decisions. That's why he's so serious.
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