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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am interested in a professor of mine that is almost 20 years older than me. However I am in my mid 30's and not your typical college student. Over the semester, I found myself developing feelings for him and, after a few interactions about a semester project, I had the feeling that he was interested in me too, until, for a period of time, he became really distant and was avoiding even eye contact. I understand that it would have been extremely unethical if we let ourselves get into something during the semester but it is over and, the grades are posted. I would really like to invite him out, get to know him better and possibly take things further. I haven't dated in a long time as I recently got out of a long relationship and feel pretty insecure about taking the first step. Also, I have some doubts that he might be gay but am not really sure... Anyone with advice on what clues I should be looking at to find out if he likes women? And, what would be an appropriate first step for me to take in order to show him that I am seriously interested in him? (I am not sure that he is aware of my age, people always guess that I am 10 years younger than I am). Is a relationship with him going to be ethical since I'll still be a student in the collage where he teaches but not my professor anymore? Thank you all that would take the time to respond.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (23 May 2011):
 If you are a student at the same university where he teaches you are still not allowed to date. He already knows this so you should save your energies and put them towards your studies. It matter not that you are a non-tradtional student or not (age factor), a student is a student.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2011): well, i do not think that it is a good idea to ask him out cz if anyone finds out what it going on between you guys everyone will start talking and things will get ugly...they will say you were involved with him b4 and stuff like that..
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