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writes:I'm 14 and I have a really great boyfriend who lives in Norfolk but I really like this guy in my cadet group. I kissed him while we was watching the football and I didn't mean for it to happen. I really don't want to split with my boyfriend because it would destroy him, but I don't want to stop seeing this guy either. What should I do? I'm getting really depressed.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (29 June 2006):
 I dont think you are ready to be with either of them. Your too young to be worrying or thinking about guys that are going to be devastated if you leave them. Its not fair to tag someone along for the sake of it. Its clear you have a lot of living to do so for now do yourself a favour and ditch both of them. If you start out this way you will enivitably end up alone, always dating more than one guy at a time will only lead to long term heatbreak. Your too young for a relationship and thats clearly shows. Wait until you are older to engage in boyfriends, as you mature things will become easier, you are at the moment like a kid in a sweetshop, not sure which ones going to quash your hunger so try a bit of both. Wait until you have grown up before embarking on relationships, as all your doing at the moment is putting out feelers to see who you really want, next week it will be some other guys you are kissing!
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (28 June 2006):
 It will destroy your boyfriend? Hardly likely as you are just kids, and not exactly planning your lives around each other at this point. You have to work hard at relationships, and it seems like you're not ready for anything serious, and who can blame you at 14? I say break up with your boyfriend gently, as it will then give you the room you obviously need to experiment and date other boys.
Good luck.
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reader, camille +, writes (28 June 2006):
 I'm going to be very tough here, so if you don't think you'll like that, stop reading now. You're 14, it seems really young for you to already be messing around with 1 boy let alone 2. It's not fair on them or you, perhaps you're not ready to date yet. You don't say where you live but I assume your boyfriend lives a distance away from you? Therefore it makes sense to finish with him, as you can't really be trusted to not kiss other boys when apart. I am sorry to be so harsh but if you're big enough to have a boyfriend and cheat on him, you're big enough to take the criticism. By the way, if you think that it would 'destroy' your boyfriend , think again, he'll get over it, especially if you do the decent thing and tell him what you did. That's sure to make the break-up easier. It'll be really big of you to admit it to, rather than preferring him to think you're perfect.
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