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writes:I have a boy friend who loves me a lot but he never cares for me, he even forgot my birthday this year. If I tell him about break up he tells he can't live without me and that he loves me truely and doesn't know to express it but I have completly lost interest in him and I can't imagine my life with him. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): well it doesn't seem like a real relationship to me ok yea he says that he loves you and all but come on what kind of boyfriend forgets his own girlfriends b-day thats retarted
I don't think he deserves you and think about you can say that you love someone as much as you want but you can't just say it you have to PROVE IT!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): well it doesn't seem like a real relationship to me ok yea he says that he loves you and all but come on what kind of boyfriend forgets his own girlfriends b-day thats retarted
I don't think he deserves you and think about you can say that you love someone as much as you want but you can't just say it you have to PROVE IT!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): It sounds like you sit on your stole and expect him to wait on you hand and foot. Does he celebrate his birthday? If not, then this answers why he doesn't recognize yours. Also, men are not typically the type the remembers everything. It seems women have allot of time to do so.
If telling him your thinking of break up to get him going towards your desire, then he should dump you, playing games like this are unaceptable. What you should be doing is expressing your feelings, what is important to you, and if he needs help or suggestions, then help him. Remember men and women are seperated from activities that involve them to work together: this isn't his fault nor your fault. If you can't communicate your needs to him and offer to help him through this learning stage, then it is your fault, not his. So if you have the little princess syndrome, then you need a shot of reality and to grow up.
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reader, MissKin  +, writes (3 April 2008):
 I think you should move on. You say 'he loves you a lot' but he 'doesn't care for you'? Love is caring for each other. Love is.. a whole lot of stuff really and if he isn't doing what you want him to or need him to and doesn't seem to be taking much interest, how can you think he loves you? If he loved you, he'd have remembered your birthday would he not? And if you want to move on you should, regardless of how he feels. I know this sounds harsh but at the end of the day, you're not happy and he's not trying to make you happy. He will learn to live without you if he's even being realistic. Do what's best for yourself. Make yourself happy. Just try to do it in the least hurtful way possible. It'll always hurt but you'll both be okay in the end. Good luck
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reader, prettycait06  +, writes (3 April 2008):
 You are in no way shape or form responsible for him. If you feel that you are no longer in love with him and that you do not want to be with him. That it is time to leth im go. It may be hard for both of you to be with out a signifigant other for a while but it is truly unfair to both of you to stay in a relationship that both parties are not truly happy in. It is not healthy for you or for him. And the longer you prolong the break up the more he will get attached, the harder he will take it, and ultimately the harder it will be for you to actually do it. Do you want to spend the rest of your life in an unhappy relationship?
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