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writes:I have a boyfriend who i love but i really fancy someone else!Im in my first serious relationship and im only 17 this is the person ive lost my virginity to n who i love so much, but iv got a job ive not bin at long n theres a lad there i really like we flirt n get on well but he has a gf n i have a bf i dnt understand why i feel like i do when i really luv my bf i think i just miss the whole idea of the excitment and newness of a relationship that i dont get from my bf any more i dont no what to do but i cant stop thinking bout this lad from work please help!
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (12 June 2006):
 I absolutely know what you mean. I started my job just over a year ago and I had a boyfriend at the time. However, I met someone else and couldn't help flirting and stuff. We the started sneaking around together, he would take me out or we'd sneak off back to his after I finished work. Although I never slept with him while I was with my boyfriend, we did other stuff and it all got a bit out of hand.
I know this new guy must be exciting and intriguing but I think you need to give it time before you make any rash decisions. I waited for about 4 months after meeting the new guy before I left my boyfriend for him. We're still together and I'm very happy, it was the right decision.
If this blossoms into anything more and you really fall for this guy, then leaving your boyfriend may be the right decision,as you won't be able to give him your full attention when you're crazy about someone else, will you? I know these decisions are hard but give it some time, maybe this is just a little crush which will go away, there's no point in ruining you're relationship for no reason.
I think, for me anyway, at first, it was just the excitement of sneaking around and being with someone new, as opposed to the gjuy I'd been with for ages. However, it turned out that it was meant to be and I know I made the right decision. Hope you do too, keep me posted and don't hesitate to get in touch if you need more help.
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (12 June 2006):
 dear reader i think you've basicly answered it yourself your just missing the newness of what once was. may i suggest that you try and concentrate on your relationship if you love him as much as you say you do then you really need to put this other guy out of your head and spice up what you have already make a real big effort and i'm not just saying one night i mean over a period of time dress up, dance, go to the extreme, if this don't work and your b/f don't give back then you have your real answer and you know your in the wrong relationship now.
well i wish you luck with that i hope you can come out of this smiling
all the best keep me posted xxx
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reader, sibaan +, writes (12 June 2006):
 ok, lets say you break up with your boyfriend and go for this other guy, your together a while and then he breaks your heart and then you realise that you should never have left your boyfriend and that he is actually the one.
well this is what happened to me except i was lucky enough that my boyfriend took me back, dont leave your boyfriend who you love because you have a crush, just get over it and stop thinking about it. why not start doing new things with your boyfriend, maybe thats all you actually need.
think about it carefully and just follow your heart.
good luck!
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