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41-50,
anonymous
writes:need help...now iam still in a different mood that i have slept with another man and iam married with 5 children.the problem that iam still worrying if my husband find out and i dont want my family to split...what iam goinh to do Reply to this Question
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reader, Cherriepie  +, writes (12 November 2008):
 If i had five kids and a fat boring husband at home I too would want to have sex outside the marriage to escape. I dont exactly appplaud you but I can see where the sex on the side is a huge relief. Yes your family is important and their needs should come first, but if this affair keeps you from losing your head my advise is to keep it quiet and do everything in your power to maintain your role in your family the best you can. Only have this affair on the spare time you can..when the kids are in school and the husband is at work. when the kids are out I hope you are home taking care of them and feeding them. As for your husband...if you have to have sex with him to keep him happy do it, for him if not for you.
I believe a woman's sexual needs should never be denied, so I for one will not try to pursuade you to break it off with your boyfriend. The sex you have with him is important for you..but keep it in perspective and never forget that you also have a family to take care of. As long as you dont deny your family you can do this.
Play it safe hun....and keep loving your family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): YES! I agree with Teacake! Think what you are doing to your family. What kind of role model you would be to your kids if this was to come out. There was no mention of love for either of these men. But surely you love your children!
End the affair with the other guy and work on your marriage. Try to rekindle some of the flames when you first met your husband. Talk to him. Tell him you want some excitement back in your life. It's understandable that with five kids, you haven't had much time for romance...Make time!
And above all...Never let this come out. Don't let your guilty conscience get the better of you...don't hurt him to ease your conscience. It could destroy your whole family! Guilt doesn't get us anywhere...it's a wasted emotion that hurts others! Ease your guilt by ammending your life and putting your family first!
Good Luck and God Bless!
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reader, Teacake +, writes (12 November 2008):
 If your family comes first you need to end it NOW or else you will have never ending pain for the rest of your life as it will cause total chaos for all in the family.
Try what you can to get more passion your love life with your husband. I doubt this man is worth the life time of misery it will cause. Break all ties with this man and never tell anyone about it! No one. You never know who will use it against you one day.
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