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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My husband doesnt take me seriously. I mean im bored the point is we have four children he works days and i work nights but only untill 10 oclock. We have only been married for three and half years hense my two eldest children are from a previous relationship.He doesnt take me out and wont go out even though we are still quite young (im 32 and hes 42) well actually its been 18 months since we last went out. Ive tried telling him that we need time on our own, but he is just not interested. The only thing he is interested in is playing on the xbox or computer and even ignors me when i walk in from work. He wont do the jobs around the house and he wont work on the cars even though he has the ability to do so. I just feel i have to fight for everything.Admittingly he looks after the children while i go to work but I have to make sure that they are fed and nearly ready for bed. He doesnt play with the children only if they play on the x box with him. The children are 12, 8, 4, and 2.When i try talking to him about it he says he will change but never does!!!Now im getting attention from a guy at work, and although nothing has happened, I feel i might stray if he doesnt realise i am still a young attractive women who has needs. Even though i dont agree with affairs i now know why wemen do it.Anyone have any ideas!!!!! should i stay with him just for the sake of the children..
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (28 March 2007):
 Hi Babes,
Yes, I do understand how you feel and yes, its so nice to know you have still got it when another man shows you attention, it makes you get them butterflies back in your tummy that you haven't felt for along time....
BUT you must have loved your husband to have re married, he looks after the kids and he took them on as his own so he must have loved you too.....
Unplug the xbox and tell him that this is distroying your relationship you need to spend at least a few hours together, get a baby sitter tell him to get off his butt get ready as you are both going out on a date...
You have tried talking to him and that has not worked so its time for serious action now, this will shock him....
Enjoy the evening and flirt with him rekindle your relationship.
I know its hard when you have four kids and you never seem to find time for one another but you have to find the time ,your time together, even if its just for a walk because money is tight, the summer is on its merry way now so think of things you can do together...
Wish you well honey,
Donna
xx
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