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writes:Well I've known this boy for two years and at first he liked me but I didn't feel the same way but after two years we've been so close, he's been a great friend to me but I have started to have feelings for him. I want to tell him how I feel but I can't bring myself to tell him because I hate rejection, and on the other hand he is in love with someone else. He even shows me poems he writes to her, so it just makes me less eager to tell him. What should I do. please help me! Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve +, writes (6 September 2007):
 Is he actually going out with this other girl or does he just fancy her? If he is going out with her then you need to hold your feelings back and NOT tell him as this isn't fair on her. Why don't you ask him to write YOU a poem. Tell him to put his feelings for you into words whether they be platonic or otherwise, at least that way you'll know if he feels the same way! ;o)
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reader, M_M4ever  +, writes (6 September 2007):
 I use to be just like you scared of rejection. I still am in some cases but it has moved toward friend love then relationships. I personally just got my self over it. I had been rejected so many times before that why should another rejection be anything differnt. So i learned to just tell the guy and if something happened it would be great but i wouldnt be too damaged if i was rejected.So overall i just prepared myself for rejection but once i told i personally felt much better and could move on if need be. If you wish to keep him as a friend just say so but you just wanted to tell him something to get it off your chest. If he truely wants to be aa great friend he will listen and keep you as a friend at least. Best of Luck
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (6 September 2007):
Don't tell him or you'll make it awkward and maybe lose his friendship.
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