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*X_Kitty_Xx
writes:Heyy, Well basically I'm 13 years old, quite intelligent, got wa few good mates ect but there are a few things that bother me... 1. Well at the moment I have braces (I can't wait to get them taken off) and I, as a typical teenager, sometimes get spot outbreaks ect. 2. I think (and feel) fat and ugly and I completely hate my body. My parents say your not fat your not ugly blah blah blah... Like any parent would, it's the same with my friends. But the thing is if I am not these things then why am I STILL single :/. It's really gets me down. So much so that I don't eat very well, not enough for a growing child, and I find I can't eat more because I feel sick emotionally and physically...3. I have small boobs... And it doesnt look right because I'm quite broadly built, so to speak. So I have quite a big frame and tiny boobs and that also bothers me because it doesn't look right. I get jealous of the other girls with bigger boobs and a skinny body, the type I wish I was... So to sum it up I don't know what to do because this really gets me down and make me so depressed...Please help anything would be great...And thank you for taking your time to read my situation.
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reader, ilikejeeps  +, writes (27 November 2010):
all you have to do is be confident. some guys think braces look great on girls. you have many years ahead to find guys. some are shy and not be out in open like girls want them to be. jsut go out and find the guys.
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reader, xX_Kitty_Xx +, writes (25 November 2010):
xX_Kitty_Xx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the advice hopefully if I do this I might feel better about myself thanks for your time (:
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reader, xX_Kitty_Xx +, writes (25 November 2010):
xX_Kitty_Xx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the advice hopefully if I do this I might feel better about myself thanks for your time (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): i was exactely the same at your age i had no confidence at all lost my boyfriend because i was so insecure about my looks im now in my final year and ive finally accepted my looks and who i am no i dont think im pretty but im more confident it takes a while but in a couple of years you will grow into your looks and small boobs you'll fill out soon i didnt fill out till i was 14 and then i got hips and a chest give it time dont worry about yourself and please please eat properly ive seen too many people go through that its not nice one girl i know did it lost 4 stone in a month and now cant eat full meals cause her stomach shrunk to fast seh got anaemia and basically looked ill whereas im curvy a size 12/14 and still get more compliements tahn her. its normal to feel unconfident but theres really no need
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reader, lacrymosa_652 +, writes (25 November 2010):
 A lot of teenage girls [and boys] feel the way you do, so don't feel completely alienated :) It's natural to feel like that because your body is going through soo many changes, you're bound to feel uncomfortable with the way you look and feel at times. What you need to remember is that while you're going through puberty, your body is going to change and develop, and you won't be in this "awkward phase" forever.
So many people your age have braces. I got mine late, when I was 16, and had them for nearly four years :| Yes they can be a nuisance and you may not like how they look, but they really don't look as bad as you think, and some people reckon they're quite cute :) You're right, outbreaks of spots is typical for a teen so they're something you may just have to accept, although you can help them a bit by eating lots of fruit and veg [boo] and getting into a good facial cleansing routine. Everyone gets spots so there's no need to feel awkward about it, it's totally natural.
Like I said before, your body isn't going to stay the same forever. Even if your boobs seem small now, they will grow. And there's nothing wrong with small boobs anyway. Please don't feel fat and ugly, it's highly likely you're not. Find certain physical features of yourself that you like - it could be your hair, or your eyes, or your legs.. focus on them when you feel a bit down about the way you look, and think for example "hey i have great hair :)" and you may feel a bit better about yourself.
Finally, when you feel down about your looks, remind yourself that you ARE beautiful, because everyone is in their own way. And it's a person's character that makes them attractive, not their looks. If you're a friendly and respectful person with a smile on your face, you'll be more attractive than a snooty, unfriendly person. You're questioning your attractiveness [i don't think that's a word but you know what I mean ;)] because you're single, but just because you're single it doesn't mean you're ugly or anything. I know it can get you down when it seems like everyone's in a relationship, but to be honest, not everyone is. There's plenty of people who are single, and there's more important things than being in a relationship. You can enjoy your teenage life with the few good friends you have, you don't need a boyfriend to feel fulfilled, believe me.
So have fun with your friends, focus on school-work, and just try and work up your confidence, and remember there's always something about yourself to feel good about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): Honestly, I am your age too, and I feel exactly the same about everything you've said. I have to have braces too, but think how straight and nice your teeth will be once they're off!
EVERYONE gets spots, just remember to drink lots of water, occasionally moisturize and don't pick at your zits!
It is perfectly normal as a teenager to feel fat and ugly. I do too, but you have to appreciate what you have. You never know, your friends may envy the parts of your body you hate. Having a boyfriend isn't everything, wait until you're older, so you can appreciate it more and have the time to be in a relationship.
Don't worry about your boobs. Everyone has different breasts, and we mustn't really compare ourselves to each other. Your boobs have much more growing to do anyway, you're only thirteen. They won't stop growing until you're about 18!
Don't let it all get to you. Come on, YOU'RE THIRTEEN. There's so much more to life than your worries. At least you're intelligent! Enjoy every second and don't worry about these kind of things, you're growing all the time.
Someone will love you just the way you are one day.
Best wishes, A :)
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