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writes:Im 25, I have a good job, lots of friends and Im nice looking. But I hate myself, I hate my personality I feel that people think that Im weird or boring and dont want to hang out with me. Im also quiet when I go out with friends and worry I wont have anything interesting to talk about so end up getting drunk just to open up a bit. What can i do
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): omg i googled this and can relate sooo much lol.i hate the way i myself am timid and mayb nt as fun as everyone else.i dont bother askig ppl to hang out incase they say no.i drink when im out so i can be more fun which doesnt really work cause i either end up crying or just hating myslef for getting drunk..I Know people prefer my mates to me im not as entertainin i dont have belief in myself and truly believ and agree that my friends r beta thn me and thts y i dnt fit in.k i snd like a rite depressive person.im nt realli honest.
im 20 i go uni -all i can say is that alot oof the time what your thinking is probably in ur head we build things up to be more than they are especially if your single there is no reasurance there u almost feel alone.i bet if u just went with the flow and stopped carin about what ppl think ud have a good time honest just try and relax alchohoal sucks dnt rely on it to have a gd time ppl tht do drink often r looking for sumthin bt neva find it.i myself have cried loads and at times hated myself and felt like i deserve noone
just remember everyones different
everyones gt something different to offer
and that without you the world would lose somethin
the fact that your wrryin about this doews not make u boorin it makes u interestin thought provokin
just go with the flow
and good lyric to remember
let it be let it be let it be let it be... whisper words of wisdom let it be........
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reader, This_face  +, writes (17 February 2009):
I know it might be difficult, but the only real way to feel better is through what YOU do and THINK. Not everyone is outgoing, the world needs different people to make it all balance out. I realize you want to change, but in order to change you need to set a direction and goals for yourself.
Here is an idea. Take who you are and who you wish to become and break that into little goals. Maybe when your friends and you go out you could decide to say at least one thing to each of them for every conversation. For me it helps if I stand in front of a mirror and picture different situations so that when everyone else is talking I too can have things to say. Also, take a look around when you go out. If you stop and really look you will notice other people are similar to you. Therefore, you're not an odd person.
Secondly, I want you to try to think of good things you have done or said when you were NOT drinking. Although alcohol might help, it is dangerous to think of it as the only resort. When you look in the mirror tell yourself good things about youself. Dress so you are confident and accept the good things you can think of or that other people have said about you.
All changes begin with a single step. That first step HAS to come from inside you. The best way to get rid of worries is to prepare and learn from other people. Focus on what other people do and give it a try. At the same time, be thankful for who you are and smile. At the end of the day look back and see what you did well, what you wish to to better in the future, and what you wish to learn more about. Never go to bed angry with yourself. Accept who you are and don't be too hard on yourself. Hope this helps.
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reader, StudentOfLife +, writes (17 February 2009):
 Maybe you could first learn more about yourself. I read a lot of books about personalities and it helped me to understand why I was behaving the way I do.
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reader, carriebaby +, writes (17 February 2009):
 You need to stop being so hard on yourself. Give yourself a bit of credit, you have a great job with many friends, count yourself lucky.Why do you hate your personality? Whats so wrong about it?I will confess that im the same with the alcohol side, i tend to have a cpl of drinks to give me that extra bit of confidence when i go out but i dont hate myself.Im sure you are not boring and your friends dont think that - jsut get involved more and enjoy your life.
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