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writes: Hey guys today I had a really bad day my mother and I got into a really big fight. She treats me like im 5 and im 17. I know im not an adult but im old enough to make my own decisions. I made plans to go out with my boyfriend 2day who I barely get to see with her approval but I told her earlier this morning I was leaving and when I was getting ready she was like where are you going? I told her that I already told her but then she asked with who a re you going out with and I told her my boyfriend. We weren't going on a date we were just gonna go to return a bra at victorias secret that I didn't like anymore after I brought it home and to buy an outfit for my brother who is taking his girlfriend out for her birthday. My mom started yelling and saying how I didn't aske her permission to go on a date. That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard. We've been together for 8 months he is my 1st real boyfriend and my 1st true love. But she doesn't like him for no reason she's really mean to him so he doesn't like 2 come around and she wonders why. When we were arguing I told her that she should of never had me and she said" so I shoulda had an abortion like you did". That was so low and it hurt a lot. I don't think I love my mom I haven't told her I loved her in atleast 7 years cz it doesn't feel right. Normally I don't talk back to her but she was really wrong and I had to speak my mind 4 the 1st time. I don't have any $ and im a senior in highschool and im graduating but I can't even afford to pay 4 my own graduation if she doesn't pay. I couldn't go on the senior trip and I can't go 2 prom. Im missing out on so much. I hate her she's ruining my life and I can't take it anymore. I can't find a job. Noone wants to hire me cz im not 18 and don't have any working experience thanks to my mom. I need help I just can't take it anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): I'm only 14 and i really do not think my mom loves me. I'm just saying this because it is in relation with your story...my mom shouts at me, my mom even washes me hair after she knows ive washed it. she embarrases me when im with friends, when my mom says i can stay at a friends house for the night, then she will call me at like 3 in the morning saying hey hony time to come home, COME HOME NOW and if im sleeping and dont answer then i get spanked...at fourteen years old...i get spanked, ive had coulceling but it doesnt seem to help...
on the inside i really think my mom AND your mom love us... peace- patrick badders
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell thaks guys for your advice but it's really not that simple. When I tried to have a relationship with her and talk to her about my problems she always throws them in my face like she did yesterday and what she said really hurt. She doesn't do anything for me other than cook and pay bills which I appreciate and I try to do my part by cleaninf cooking, laundry etc although my brother never has to do anything and I don't think that's fair at all. My mom doesn't want me to have a boyfriend she akways scares them away with her ruthless attitude(ironically her name is ruth). My boyfriend is amazing and he's the one who really takes care of me more or less both financially and emotionally. He paid for my college applications and helps me with my projects and everything but she doesn't see that. All she sees is the fact that he has a penis since he's a man. After getting pregnant the 1st time which wasn't by choice(my ex boyfriemd was really abusive and made me do a lot of things I didn't wanna do)I started taking birthcontrol pills. My boyfriend is amazing and sometimes its hard for me to be myself and speak my mind to him because im not used to it since I grew up being constantly intimmidated by my mom my ex and various other family members in my past. We get into argumeant about that all the time because sometimes he thinks im too timid.he's the best thing that ever happened to me and im not gonna let her get in the way anymore. I want to be happy im tired of walking around depresses with a fake smile on my face. Is it too much for me to want the real thing? How can I make my mom see that no matter what she says im not little anymore but I understand that im not an adult and still need her too. I don't wanna lose the lady I just wish she'd stop acting like a controlling bafoon!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): dont ever have goes at your mother, she carried you in her stomach for so long, respect her tell her you love her she will then help you with wateva you need or want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): Please stop blaming your mom for everything. Be grateful that she allows you to have a boyfriend.As you said, you are dependent on her for everything. Just be grateful that you have a mother who cares. At least she is there for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): You know, I think these things happen at the age you are. Moms just want to hold on to their children and don't like to think of the fact that they're going up. While, you are getting older and need to start making your own decisions. It's unfortunate. Love your mom, talk to your mom about your problems and how you're feeling. Ask for her trust. I'm 21, didn't always have great times with my mom at your age- luckily, I grew up and grew out of it quick. She was healthy and diagnosed with cancer 7 months before she passed away this last January. And it is painful, let me tell you. She's the only one who's known you really well for 17 years. So never forget, you one day, will lose her. Develope a better relationship.
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