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writes:I have recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend, I thought it would hurt and I may bleed as it does if the hymen is broken. But it didn't hurt at all and it easily went in, but it didn't feel like hardly anything was in there, I didn't even orgasm, I know he did, why didn't I? Should I get checked out or somthing? Is there somthing different about me?I told my best friend about it and she said it is probably because you don't know how to please yourself yet, so I don't know where to guide my boyfriend to know which is best for me, which is true, so I thought maybe using fingers would help me explore my sexuality and what makes me trigger, but I still didn't get an orgasm from that... why?? xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx 4 all ya help everybody...xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): Sweety you just lost your virginity but you obviously weren't ready because you don't know anything not to sound mean. Well when I lost my virginity I didn't bleed either and it didn't hurt or anything just like how you feel I guess. But for some reason after my firts real time it really hurt. It took about 10 times of having sex for it to stop hurting and I don't know why. But the reason I said that you're not ready was because you seem like you just had sex to have sex. Losing your virginity is supposed to be a big deal and I think you started having sex for the wrong reasons. Well just to let you know I've been having sex with my boyfriend for 8 months but I only had 1 orgasm. It takes longer and a lot more work for girls to have an orgasm you're lucky if you have one within the 1st year you're having sex it took me three years to get my first one and according to many of my friends we're all the same. If you're partner is new to it too don't expect any miracles cz he's too young and still has no idea what he's doing ....well I hope this helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): There's nothing wrong with you at all. It's just you're inexperienced in the sexual department. For sex time, try more clitoral stimulation - rubbing, licking etc. Foreplay generally involves clitoral stimulation, so have more foreplay. It's hard to stimulate your clitoris through actual intercourse, only your g-spot, and getting an orgasm through your g-spot is still hard.
You could masturbate to get to know what you like, and then tell him or show him what you like.
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reader, Honey29  +, writes (6 April 2008):
I totally agree with Bee. It seems to me that it is ten times easier for a guy to climax than a woman. If something feels good you have to let him know in a subtle way. That way he can do it again. Like if he does something you like say.. that feels good keep it right there... or something like that. My man is really good in the bed and sometimes it is still hard for me to have an orgasm. Don't forget four play is key!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): You are both very young and inexperienced with sexual matters, unless he is much older. Most women require a tremendous amount of foreplay (stimulation) to achieve sexual satisfaction compared to the male gender, and few young men even have a clue as to how to begin or perform for a girl.
Unless you are with a fellow who is older or quite experienced, or who has studied the art of pleasing a woman, it could be a long time before you experience an orgasm. Unfortunately, this is more normal than unusual. The answer is to read about it on this Web site and elsewhere, and yes, it is useful to explore your "triggers" either through masturbation or mutual stimulation. Intercourse alone often is not enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): Well first of all there is nothing wrong with you.
Now as for the reason you didnt orgasm, there are several reasons this could happen
for one, you may not have had enough clitorial stimulation, which is hard to get through just missionary position; try new positions, let him finger you while having sex, or in your own time explore your body and figure out what works best
and remember that it is much, much easier for guys to reach climax than it is for girls.
hope i helped =]
best of luck
~Bee
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