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writes:i have two conflicting issues:I am the member of a sorority at Penn but during my 2nd and 3rd year I realized that things made me grow apart and sometimes it seemed like I wasn't a fit, although I was still friends with quite a few of the girls.I have been missing them for a long time and I've found out that I'd love to be closer to them, many of them are either graduating or theyre growing closer together.. and I'm not there with them, this makes me sadI had decided to go back until...Issue #2I've been in College for almost 3 1/2 yrs and all this time I haven't been able to forget about my high school... hmmm "crush?.. I have gone on dates and I still like this guy. Shawn and I go way back.. in HIgh school I always felt like we had something, but our family backgrounds are completly different and since my high school was a private school and all the families were very conservative... and we were young to really understand what happened...We had a class together an he'd do little things for me without saying anything... when we went to prom, out of the 10 ppl in out group we were the only couple that actually talked to each other (the conversation was nice and it actually felt like a real date, at least to me) while at the restaurant. People used to tell me that we'd make a cute couple.Things went downhill when his g/f found out that we had gone to prom together (even though this happened months before they started going out), and after she made rumors about me, I simply stopped talking to Shawn, avoided him and his friends and just stopped talking to him and about him... still to this dayI went on to college thinking that I would def. forget about him since he goes to a private college.... not exactly as plannedI keep seeing him everywhere, I saw him at an art festival, I spent a few days at a town 45 minutes away from home and I saw him there parking right next to where I was walking, I saw him at my OWN unversity, I saw him shopping, I see him everywhere! and he never sees me...TO MAKE THINGS WORST...his girlfriend joined my sorority and previosuly his ex had joined it too, Cassey ended up dropping after she told everyone at my house that I had tried to steal Shawn from her... and now that EXACT SAME shawn is dating another girl....This girl obviously doesn't know about me, but Shawn and I know what happened, I want to go back to my sorority but it is SOOO painful to see Shawn with someone... and it's been years since I last spoke to him...I wouldn't even know how to address him... do I even go back?, do i avoid him if I do? what do I say becuase I will have to talk to him at some point...It's going to be sooo sad to see him sitting in our living room waiting for her to come wearing her formal gown for our prom... It would simply break my heart.... and yet... I want to get away from him.. and still go back to my sorority...ANY ADVICE IS WELCOME
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2009): ... just to clarify: both his ex and current girlfriend joined my sorority at diff. times, the ex dropped a year before the current girlfriend joined.
So now the issue is the with the Current girlfriend, she's a recruitment officer for our sorority but I've nver met her, except through facebook and she doesn't know about me and Shawn, i doubt he'd mention it to her, and I doubt he even knows that I'm in that sorority since I'm in temporary absence due to school commitments
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