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writes:I hate my boyfriend's sister with such a passion. At first we got on well, I'd heard of her before, she is one year below me and is known for having a bit of a bad reputation. my boyfriend and i have been together for 7 months and last month after a series of upsetting arguments between my boyfriend and i, i decided i wanted a break. I'd been fed up of him upsetting me and i wanted to call it a day. the next day she was giving me so much abuse it was so rude and out of order and was ringing me up, threatening me and saying things like "my brother hasnt done anything wrong so u shouldnt finish him" - she was being immature about it and was drunk and her friends were telling her what to say. i tried not to take notice but now, my boyfriend and i are sorted she's all 'i love you babes' and wants happy chappy with me, i might be faking it to like her for the sake of my bf but i cant help but hate her and i can't be bothered acting. the way she acted was uncalled for and i would never forgive her for being such a nasty and cruel person. There have been many times that ive stuck up for her but she threw it all back in my face. she makes me so angry!!!!! i really don't know what to do, surely i can't finish my boyfriend because of her? I feel asthough if i do want to end with him, i will have to recieve abuse from her because of it. she's acting more like she fancies him.I don't know what to do or how to act
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks very much guys. i agree with what you both say, i know i'm not dating his family, it's just i'm the type of person who likes to get along with everyone (especially when its someone who is dear to me's family)!
i guess i just need to try and let go of my grudge but only remain civil.
my boyfriend was in support of me, which upset me because i didnt want his family to think he was choosing me over his sister, but he said that the way she spoke to me was that bad that he wasn't willing to talk to her at the time. and he knew that i was in the right, luckily he is supportive and fine, i'll just have to get on with the annoying family sister
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): Have you talked to your boyfriend about it? I think in most relationships, and ones that become closer, you will always find a relative that are fake or hates you for no reason. The ones in your shoes simply ignores what that person other says. They do this because in the past of trying to maturely talking about the problems and trying to come to a resolve was futile. Like wise the bad relative would not even one bit try to make things work or even apologize. So I think unless you talk to her calmly about it you will keep hating her. If talking to her does not work then you will have to endure. I don't really see why you should leave him because of her because like I said there are always that annoying family member.
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reader, babymama99  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 You are dating your boyfriend not her. be civil when you have to be in her presence but that's all that is required.
You and your boyfriend have made up and resolved your differences, but the sister has never appologized so as far as you are concerned you still have an issue with her.
don't hate her that takes too much of your energy, but you can learn from this. she is not your friend she is just your boyfriends sister. treat her that way. she needs to learn in life that you can't walk all over people one minute and then expect everything to be fine the next minute.
Also tell your boyfriend to take you out. why is this girl around so much?
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