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writes: I'm a single mum of a 6yr old.I've been separated 4 years. I have dated a few guys,Met a guy over xmas,dated for 6wks,then the games started.He waited a few days b4 asking me out again,then when I didnt hop to it, became sarcastic,smart etc+then let me stew over a full wkend.Txt me on a Monday+I hav not replied.I've constantly had these kind of relationships.What am I doing wrong?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2006): Have you ever considered that the problem is 'not you'. There are a ton of guys out there who do this and many who don't. You've just selected a few bad apples. You are recognizing these behaviours as being wrong and they are! Insecurities, their own inadequacies, their baggage..all contribute to their demise of relationships with good women like yourself. The positive aspect about all this is you've learned the signs and you will always hold out for a better man. Dating is a 'selection process' and we take what we learn and apply as to how we conduct our love lives. Mindgames and sarcasm is a pretty good sign, that a guy is insecure and I question his respect for women, in general. Men like this quite often continue with these games long after you establish a long term relationship with them. A great guy man doesn't resort to these games. He'll work hard to build the love, trust and respect. Trust me, I know.I have a good guy like that. He has never, ever resorted to mindgames. So keep on using your head and discerning the good guys from the bad guys. Good luck in your journey and I hope you find happiness.
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reader, BIGmanwithaBIGheart  +, writes (16 February 2006):
 personally i think that he really likes you, if he's anything like me! i did the same to my current girlfriend and we are as strong as ever! don't go overboard, i'm sure you'll be fine as you sound like you deserve a break!
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reader, mystify +, writes (15 February 2006):
 well im not sure but it sounds like you might be playing along, i have always refused to enter mind games with a guy , always lay things out on the table if thats how you want things to be, and hopefully they will follow suit , if not just be one step ahead , this sort of behavoiur tends to fade out later into the relationship
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