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writes:I hate everything about my boyfriend but I love him more than anything in the world... should I leave him?I used to trust him, I used to feel comfortable with him in public, I used to enjoy having him around, I used to like doing things for him, I used to believe everything he said to me, but now everything’s changed...first of all im 18.. he's 25... ive been with him for a year and 9 months...he used to smoke pot, go party with his friends and go to clubs... when he met me it all slowly stopped...he would tell me I was everything to him that I was everything he needed... that he would never lie to me or hurt me... so in the beginning he asked me over and over everyday to be with him for 3 months straight... but I kept saying no because I was 17 at the time and I thought he was too old for me... so one night he decides to sleep with another girl... she calls me the next day just to rub it in my face... ya I know what a bitch... he lied to me about it for so long.... then I had her 3way him so I could hear the truth... so he finally came clean after I found out... so ya I started getting jealous and wanted to be with him now... so we started dating...then he had some friends that wanted me to hook them up with some of my friends... so I introduced them to a girl I went to school with... she was 21 so she was able to go party and go to clubs with them... so... of course my boyfriend and I get into a fight and they all go to a club together and my boyfriend ends up dancing with my friend at the club... she called me drunk apologizing... I blew up his phone that night. at least 200 calls.... he thought it'd be funny to show everyone... but ya.... I forgave him...then I found out he was still talking to one of the girls that he used to sleep with... behind my back... she told me she was the one always calling him blocked... he lied to me about that... but finally confessed... I forgave him....ok after all this I started to have major trust issues.. and I have no confidence in myself... my boyfriend never makes me feel good about myself... so I started asking to prove to me he was done lying and doing things behind my back....so I asked him to not answer blocked calls... or watch movies with nudity or sex in them because it makes me uncomfortable... I asked him to change his number... so after all this...so one day we go to a lil football game for his friends son... there is a girl there in mini ass shorts with a huge ass.. does my boyfriend look??? of course... but more than once... in front of me... I hitched a ride home....he got a text one night from a guys name... it said something like I don’t want you... your never going to have my pussy... like... odd right??? so I asked he lied of course... it ended up being some girl he worked with... he came up with a huge excuse... that she was gay and he had to call her... or what ever... so ya that was suspicious and still pisses me off.I caught him masturbating to a porno magazine in the bathroom... he said he'd been doing it for 6 months... it made me sick to my stomach... t made me feel like I wasn’t good enough like he needed to look at another girl to get himself off... he told me he never did that and that I was all he needed... bull shit... right? im still trying to forgive him for this one...I found out he text my friend to ask her questions about me.... which I don’t believe... but she didn’t tell me this until she thought me and my boyfriend were seriously broken up.... anyways he did it behind my back...knowing he shouldn’t talk to my friends... because ive been burned by them so many times before...I call him the other day at my break to see what he's up to... he says he's at chili’s... by himself... bull shit... right??? he broke up with me over it... cuz I didn’t believe or trust him... this is when my friend told me he text her.... so later on that night... he tells me he lied to me... that he was with his guy friend... which I don’t like but still gives my boyfriend no reason to lie... right??? so anyways he tells my friend before he tells me... which also pist me off...im a very jealous person... I don’t like it when my boyfriend checks out other girls in front of me.... but he did the other weekend... ya the girl had a huge ass but he's with me... it hurt... cuz he's done it before....so all the lies... and the shit he does behind my back... what do I do??? is it worth it??? I not think he's cheating but still the lil lies hurts... And he acts stupid and immature in public and makes inappropriate comments in public. That bugs…He promises he’s going to stop lying but ive heard it so many times… he said he’s going to stop masturbating… and doing shit behind my back but I don’t believe him…I do love how he kisses me and touches me and how he buys me whatever I want… but im not sure if all this is worth being pist off and hurt all the time… should I just leave him?
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reader, Luv Lost +, writes (17 May 2011):
Hey guys... just reading his makes my body tense up from being able to recognize the pain. Sometimes its hard to get it out into words...the way the one you luv can wrap you up in hurt and agony. Shoe-I luv my dude in a way Ive never experienced but dat dont make him act right. I find myself sulking every darn day. Like a dark cloud hoovering over me. Let me explain..We met in college. Had very short dreads..lol well kept. He sure didnt catch my eye quickly but we end up having another class together. By fall08 we were buddys in class tag teaming weekly quizes...me gaining from the grade. Any way he was a light skinned southern guy that "flossed" (To floss: show of flashy material things). I didnt care much for scholarship $ people but wateva we was cool. By new years we was together. Its been 3 and 1/2 years and he had shown his "BUTT".That wasnt scholarship $ at all. It was scheming $$$...hustling $$... and $ from FEMALES (Mind u I never gave him a dime- he alwayed splurged on me) It all started because his phone kept buzzin throughtout the night of our fitst few weeks of living together. I got the phone went in the bathrm and answered--who---a loose female talking bout I dont live there because the BF is in jail! U know I was upset! THe girl knew to much and we ended up meeting.Yup she alrdy knew exactly what address to come--UUhg She was weak and I put crow bar to her head--His house got tore up.(O yea he had got me prego:{. Fast forward and he got her name under a male name...smelling like sex and staying out all night. So I cheated he dont know. It didnt help bcause I have anger and resentment built up. He does crimes lol and despite how TV shows it, that life style isnt cool. Im torn believing if he is reall this hateful,scheming,manipulating, money loving person he comes off to be... (We also fight hands on)I rub it in his face because its been 3 years of drama and Im still angry! Now hes sweet intimate and vocal about his plans to marry me and how he would never be that stupid again. Yall IDK how I got here. I stay because who he tends to be now but im furious with every thought that crosses my mind. I wonder daily if he cheating or scheming? Worst thing he got a degree. I lost in love...maybe I think this is the best love I can get.Wateva it is, its taking toll on my body mind and heart. Bitterly in luv,XXX
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reader, babyboom +, writes (14 May 2011):
im sorry that your going through all of this but the only thing i can tell you is that you need to do what your heart tells you to do. he may stay an asshole for the rest of his life or one day he may change for you. you'll never know unless you work on it. no ones perfect! but if you work on makin a change in your realation ship it could work out for you guys :) it takes time for a person to changee. just like the saying ROME WASNT BUILT IN A DAY. i hope you guys can wrok it out but really you dont need anyones opinion all you need is your own. trust your heart and itll work out. but remember NOTHINGS PERFECT :( thats just the way this crazy world is. i have realationship problems to girl but i realized that my guy is the one for me. we talked about our problems and i made him understand that the way he was treating me was unexceptible and now we are great. i mean at first i thought about leaving him because i tried and tried to talk to him about how he made me feel it went in one ear and out the other and nothing worked but i put my foot down n told him if he really loved me and didnt want me gone forever then he needed to hear me and not block out what i say. it work and im very happy...... you should write me back its great when you can talk to people about stuff you know :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2008): You must break this off before you get married or have kids and then split with a completely new mess. It will hurt in the beginning, but it will be so worth it in the long run. He sounds like an Ass just like one I am living with. I have no trust, no loving moments anymore, no self esteem left and I weigh a ton from eating myself comfortable. Trust me we need new outlooks and time to ourselves and maybe a plant or a dog to take care, before trying to find ourselves in a loser man.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (28 May 2008):
 Whoa! After reading all that, yeah I completely agree with Tisha -- loose this one... like 5 minutes ago! It took you a page to get to the only thing you like about him -- the way he kisses you -- there are ton of lips attached to better men -- go find a new set!!
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (28 May 2008):
 This sounds like a mess - he is mucking you around and effecting your whole self worth...I think you really should leave this guy...it isn't going to get any better, probably worse...do yourself a favour and dump him!
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reader, Tremor +, writes (28 May 2008):
 Odd as it is, it is in fact possible to love someone without liking them.
You love having someone to be with, you love it when you're close to one another, but their day to day bad habits are something you can't stand.
A relationship like that is not worth continuing. If he is continuing to lie to you and do things you;ve asked him not to, then he obviously does not have the respect for you that he should have.
A good relationship is not one where you should feel hurt all the time.
My advice to you is to end it now. It will hurt, but it will be better in the long run. Put yourself first, and find a lad who will treat you that way you deserve.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 May 2008):
 Yes.
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