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writes:Basically my friend has got closer with somemeone else who she always falls out with. I'm sick of them getting close because something always happens and my friends comes running back to me! Should I tell her this? I hate feeling like second choice:/ Reply to this Question
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (30 July 2011):
 Hey. Ive had many simarlar situations like this, i had a bestfriend once, and when we started highschool she got pretty popular. She would always leave me out or we couldnt do things together because she was busy with other people. When things would go wrong or she just had no one else left to moan to she would always come to me and if i happened to say i was busy she would throw a hissy fit and make up some dramitic sob story to get me to go to hers.
I defointly think you should tell her, as its not fair on you and maybe she doesnt realize shes doing it. Hopefully she will understand and try and work onit with you, and not leave you in the dark.
If she happens to react badly then simplely ditch her, you don't need people like that in your life who can't even be asked to make some time for you.
Best of luck x
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (30 July 2011):
 If she's your friend, then you should tell her how you feel. She will understand, and if she doesn't, then she'a not a friend. This is a problem between her and the other person. Just because you're friends doesn't mean you have to know everything going on between them. So just tell her that you prefer that she not share her problems with her other friends with you. She'll understand, and if she doesn't or can't refrain from it, then it's time to find a new friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2011): Yes you should tell her how you feel and possibly use examples if you can think of any. I get used like that by all of my friends and I blew up about a year ago and told them all. They took note of what I said and worked on it, it wasn't perfect but at least they made the effort and tried for me.
Tell her and if she gets upset about it tell her it's how you feel and hopefully she'll try and change for you.
I hope everything works out okay for you, good luck :)
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