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writes: Is there anything I can do to stop my bf having an orgasm so quickly? It's not nice for me and sex lasts 10 seconds! I hardly touch him and he's already there! It takes me ages to get turned on, so I get nothing from it! Please help me!!! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): when i got with my boyfriend 6 months ago the first two times we tried to have sex it was over in less than 10 seconds. he pretended nothing happened and i could tell he really didn't want to talk about it. i waited til i got home and messaged him on msn to ask him why he wouldn't talk to me about it, the fact that he didn't have to do this conversation in the flesh really helped us to take those first steps to face the issue. he confided that it had always happened (in the four years he had been sexually active) and his exes never talked to him about it. so we agreed he would go to the doctor and the doctor told him as soon as he relaxed he'd be fine. next time i went to see him we talked it all through in person and although it was really difficult for him he opened up.
we then took sex really slowly trying to de-sensitise him and slowly but surely he began to last longer and longer. we now have a PERFECT sex life and if anything the talking at the beginning really got us to trust one another, something i had never had with a boyfriend before.
so basically talk, take it slow and get to know and trust one another properly. hopefully it'll work out.
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reader, pall4all +, writes (2 November 2005):
dears, this is the problem many men may suffer from, it can be solved with a simple exercise named KAGEL exercise, tell ur boyfriend to do this, I recommende this to you also,it will help both of you to over come not only by this problem but you can enjoy great pleasure. foreplay is the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2005): Ask him to train to last longer by masturbating alone and keeping longer scores. Ask him to use his fingers and tongue to please you before or after he is done.(Preferably before, so he can have energy and concentrate.)Don't forget to tell him how wonderful it feels. Dedicate one full day for sex, so you can try lots and lots of time.Maybe the first time is not so great but the second and third will be better. He will eventually learn to please you if he cares about you. Good luck and enjoy yourself!
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reader, timmyboy +, writes (31 October 2005):
Hiya, i guess i used to be like that, no way near 10 seconds but about 5-10 minutes was my max! this way because it was my first few times and slowly but surely i started to realise that sex isnt just for men, so i started to slow down and give the lady enough before i had my turn. So, coming back to your point, and i have many questions but, is he new to sex?, have you talked about the problem, and why not try and tell him to slow things down a bit and keep a clear mind. It worked for me anyway, if not use the old trick in the book of getting him to think of baseball.
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