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writes:Right, well i'm 16 and im going uni next year and i have been with my now ex boyfriend for about 6 months, we were getting on perfectly together, we was happy. there was hardly any problems and when there was we sorted everything out and everything else was just perfect. but my parents found out about me having a boyfriend and they were constantly telling me to finish him and focus on my education. my mum tells me that she wants me to be happy, but why can't she let me be happy with my ex boyfriend? we didn't even want to split up, he still means so much to me and i do actually love him. I had obviously told him about what my parents are doing to me and he understood that, i told him I my have to see him less, he said he was okay with that and was going to 'try' and adapt to that, but the other night we was speaking about it and it just come to point where we both have to agree in finishing each other, so it was a joint decision. I was so upset about it, i didn't think it would have come so soon, not yet anyway. I have spoke to him about it and I tell him all he has to do is wait 4 years for me and i told him i don't expect him to be single for the next 4 years but just don't give up on me. We was happy, no problems, nothing, we split up cos of my parents wanted me to and it just ended up getting to him. I had inboxed him a big message yesterday telling him my feelings and everything and decided i'm going to think positive and stay happy about everything, but the more I think about it the more I don't think it is right, that we split up because my parents don't like it, but they're showing that they care for me and my education right?I told him I'd happily wait 4 years for him if it gets me him back to how we was or start a fresh and today I went to his house to go and speak to him, told him through the phone 'I want to see you' and I got there and he didn't even answer the door to me, he said he went out with his dad, but something tells me he was in he was just lying, I make so much effort with him, I care for him so much. All i went to go and find him for was that I needed to speak to him about everything. I have no idea what to do anymore, everything's just complicated, I don't want to lose him, I'm willing to wait 4 years for him- even if 4 years is long, if he makes me happy and means a lot to me then it should be okay right? and he's told me, if we're both single in 4 years he'll have me back.I just need to sort my head out, I don't know what to do, I'm trying to think positively but it's not working, someone help? xxxx
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reader, honestman  +, writes (5 April 2011):
4 years is like an entire lifetime.
You should think positively and focus on your education. It is very painful being on a long distance relationship, and I'm glad you broke it off.
Whatever happens between this guy and you, you need to keep moving forward.
College it is a very expensive investment. So you should be able to take advantage of that investment, because it will benefit you your whole life. You need to keep yourself happy. Go out with your friends and have fun once in a while.
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