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writes:Okay. i really need help... my life is so complicated.. i know this is a love/dating site but i thought someone on here might be able to help me..I was dating this guy for 2 years and then i had to be stupid and ruin it by kissing his best friend... that ended the relationship then. but we were still dating i guess you could say it just wasnt labeled... and i got the double standers all the time. he could do this but i couldnt. He finally got a new girlfriend but was still calling me everynight to say goodnight and to tell me that he loved me. then i stopped that. every time i would start to move on he would call me and feed me all the " but i love you so much" crap. and stupid me would go right back to it. well he ended up cheating on his new girlfriend three or four times with me. and told me all the time that he didnt wanna be with her n=but he didnt wanna break up with her becaus he didnt wanna hurt her?i felt guilty and ended up telling her. she believed me and they broke up. then he wanted to be with me then.. or so he said. so we were spending more time together.. then he starts spends time with her again... now he tells me that hes still in love with me and he loves me with all of his heart but he doesnt know if he can trust me or doesn't think i'll be faithful. so he doesn't know who to "choose" because he loves me but cant trust me but knows that she'll "never ever" hurt him... i keep falling back into it and i dont know what to do.Finally to top it all off him and my best friends doesnt get along so one night he calls her to tell her hes sorry for whatever it was that he done to her and she recorded it all and sent it to her boyfriend which is the new girlfriends ex boyfriend...(days of our lives i know) and gets a bunch of stuff going on and now he doesnt wanna be with her if she is friends with me(3rd grade i know) so she doesnt want to have anything to do with me... so i have nobody to turn to for anything...im so confused and to top it all off im just a 16 year jr. in high school. wonderful life right. please help me.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 January 2010):
You kissed his best friend, so it's clear that you're not ready for a relationship yet. And he cheated on his girlfriend and used you, which means he's not ready either. Stop bothering with this guy and look at your life. Focus on yourself. You're the one making it complicated by cheating and allowing yourself to be conned by this guy. So take a step back and just lice your own life. Your Mr Right is out there.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (28 January 2010):
Oh wow, you certainly do have a horrible and complicated life. This is by far worse than all the people dying in Haiti, people that are beaten/molested/raped daily, and wow all those homeless people...some life you have. I can't imagine what pain and despair you will go through once you finally become an adult and have to pay bills, eat top ramin for dinner for weeks, try and juggle college, work, and a social life, and you want to see guys play games and come and go, you just wait.
Honey, get your head out of the clouds. But this is silly. Quit feeling sorry for yourself because no, you don't have a complicated life. It's called high school. It's the perfect opportunity to learn from your mistakes and find out what true friends are.
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