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*harlise
writes:I have been with my husband since I was 16, married at 19, we have a gorgeous 3 year old. I also own a business and work full time. I had the most amazing pregnancy but fell into bad post natal depression straight after the birth of my baby girl, this was not the first time, I have suffered depression since I was 14. My husband has always struggled with my depression and we have had a turbulent marriage, there has been infidelity, mental and physical abuse, although we have had such a hard time I love him so much, and he is a good person.The most important thing to me is bringing up my girl in a loving home, and clearly it is not at the moment, I am so down and have emotionally given up on my marriage, I want to give it one last shot, am I being naive in thinking things will change? or should I cut my losses and try to make a life on my own?I am so confused and feel I have no one I can talk to about this horrible situation.XX
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reader, charlise +, writes (17 October 2008):
charlise is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank-you very much, I think I already knew that, but you helped me to realize I need to take action. Thanks again I really appreciate you taking the time to help me.
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reader, loveshercola  +, writes (16 October 2008):
Hi, I have two daughters and had depression after the delivery of both of them, incredibly bad to the point of almost being hospitalised for a long, long time. It really put a strain on my marriage and we ended up divorcing.
That said, I think you have the answer to your own question. Your priority now lies with your child and providing a healthy, safe home environment. That does NOT include letting your child watch her mother be physically or emotionally abused by a man. Would you want her to grow up thinking it is okay for a man to treat her like that?
Abusive relationships do NOT get better. You are better off going off on your own, creating a life of love and peace for your daughter and yourself and working on your depression.
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I know it's a difficult situation to be in.
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