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*onfuzzled_in_cville
writes:Theres this xmas party coming up and I wanted my boyfriend to come with me but he's never liked dancing in public, he won't like the music that's at the party, and I have a feeling that he won't feel like going.I forsaw this and I have a back up plan of asking this male friend of mine that I work with to go with me. When I told my boyfriend he flipped, insisting that I go with my friend and that he doesn't want to 'go through this shit' anymore. I wasn't playing mindgames, I just had a fall back plan. He doesn't trust me and it's been more than 2 years since I made terrible mistakes. I made out with 2 guys and I apologized.My boyfriend is mad at me. He won't take my calls or read my text messages. I was told to leave him alone but I feel like I need to make my case. what should I do?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (24 January 2009):
Let him calm down and then send him an email or a letter. So he can read it and you can explain but he doesn't have to respond straight away.
It was very insensitive of you to ask another guy to be your date for the party without asking your boyfriend first. Given your past history I can see how it would have looked.
Yes your boyfriend may have hated to party but going and doing things you hate for the other person is part of being in a relationship. He would have gone there for you if you'd asked him.
Apologise and say you were trying to be nice but it backfired.
Good Luck!! xx
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