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writes:I got Invited over a guys house that im seeing hes 19 and im 15...i met his mum and dad and their great they loved me and didnt seem to mind the age gap...we went upstairs 2 his room and 1 thing led 2 another...we ended up having sex and in the middle of this he said babe this doesnt feel right...i said why and how? nd replied because your 15 and im 19,,,the thing is hes been telling me for a while naw that im his baby gurl and he loves me...he later text me saying i really like you but it didnt feel right...what should i do..i feel like if he really liked me that he wouldnt care about the age gap and after all there is 19 years between my mum and dad...it would be different though when im 17 and hes 21 because that sounds fine so whats the differnce?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMissE....ThankYou thats how i feel but now ive jus given up because he just wants 2 be mates...i suppose im 16 in january and maybe sumthing can happen then~!? but for now im happy with him being with other gurls becoz hes always done that! hell always be in the back of my mind though!...yeh he said this feels wierd i cant do it im sorry so i dont think he used me! i kept thinking why go 2 all this effort just for a shag!? so i started to believe he liked me and he also got jealous when i went with other guys so this made me think it even more! but thankyou every1 so much uve helped me loadz! Much Love__3
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reader, MissE--x +, writes (20 August 2007):
 aww i can so relate ! ... this lad i lyked has just recently done this to me however .... he dint say it between he sed it after he got what he wanted ! sweety thers gota be a reason to it ... if u feel lyk he genuinly likes you fight for what you want ! ... nothign wrong with beeliving in sumit so much and not wanting to let it go however be careful i dont want you to get hurt ... just do what you feels best !
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reader, lucethegoose  +, writes (19 August 2007):
This just happened to a friend of mine. Her boyfriend panicked because it was illegal. However, the difference was that her parents threatened to report him (even though they didn't know that they were actually having sex - they were just trying to keep them apart). But it scared him and they broke up.
They had been together awhile, though. You didn't say how long you had been together. He might have just used you and this is a convenient excuse. I would tell him to stuff it, chalk it up to experience and find someone else. i'm sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou guys...im not goin 2 give him a hard time ive thanked him for letting me know now rather than later and thanked him for all the good times we had together and i have realised that hes doing it for the best..im 16 in january so who knows what could happen! ive got plenty of time so just enjoy it while i can:)...thankyou! x
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (18 August 2007):
He does really like you, it is just that he realized he is legally an adult and he's probably ready for college and you aren't that far along into high school. It isn't the age gap so much, it is the legality and maturity. He might also feel like he just "stole your innocense."
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reader, skye +, writes (18 August 2007):
 I agree with Flower Girl here. The truth is having sex with this lad was illegal. I think he realised his mistake (albeit a tad late) and has dealt with it the best way he could. You like him and im sure you would not want to get him into trouble with the police.
The age gap is not so big, and I suspect he does care for you but your being underage is a fact and simply beyond the control of you both. He has given you the opportunity to find happiness with a lad of your own age and not to get involved in an adult relationship before you are ready both in maturity and in law.
Dont be too hard on him and dont think too badly of him for he has tried to put right the wrong he has done. Wait until you are of legal age before you embark on a sexual relationship and ensure you know what type of birth control suits you best and how to use it.
Always, always be safe.
Take care,
Skye
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (18 August 2007):
 Unfortunately he got what he wanted (i.e. sex) and he is now ready to move onto his next subject. Call me old-fashioned but what are the parents thinking letting a 15 year old girl go upstairs with their adult son? Honestly you have to put this one down to experience and be careful about your boyfriend choices in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2007): Yes, Your right if he wasn't thinking with his balls but with a heart full of love, your age wouldn't matter one bit
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reader, flower girl +, writes (18 August 2007):
 The difference is that it is illegal what you done and maybe he realised that and is now panicking.
There is no problem with the age gap if the two people concerned have not got a problem with it and it is legal.
Take care.xx.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (18 August 2007):
 it maybe the fact that you as a 15 year old in the UK are underage to have sex and it is illegal...
how long have u been going out with him? if it hasnt been long maybe this is the problem
Hope everything gets sorted
Sparkii-x
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