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writes:Hi!So i was a complete idiot. I am 17 and where i work this new lad started who was 21. Instantly we clicked, and i really liked him. Of course i barely knew him. But he spoke to me online and we met up and the 4th day i kissed him and i was so happy, thinking maybe this is going to go somewhere! He came to see me the next day for a drive and we kissed again. I was already becoming attached to him. Then about a week later he text me saying ' this isnt going to end in and go anywhere serious is it?' I dont know why but i said 'yeah of course not' cause i didn't want everything to change, and he said yeah he just wanted fun. Basically another week later i was chuffed as he asked me to go to his mum's house with him. We ended up having sex twice when i was there; i know it's stupid. Ive got a few questions, when we had sex he was just coming off a kidney infection (like that day was the last day of taking the antibiotics) is there a chance i could've caught it? also, we didnt use a condom, but he didn't 'come' cause of the infection so could i be pregnant? Finally, i havent spoken to him much after it all happened, and its kind of obvious thats all it will ever be, but i keep thinking about him and i just want to forget. How can i just pretend it never happened? x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011): Hate to tell you this but it's very unlikely he was on antibiotics for kidney infection. Young men hardly ever get urine or kidney infections, unlike women. Much more likely he had them for an STD which caused burning when he peed and hes lied to you. Please go to an STD clinic. They're anonymous. If you caught anything it's likely a course of antibiotics can cure and they can give u advice in pregnancy testing. Don't leave it. Women can catch stds, have no symptoms and be left infertile. Likelyhoid is you'll be ok but don't ignore it
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reader, BriBri  +, writes (9 April 2011):
Firstly,you need to go to a doctor and get a check up.Next,you need to geett tested for anything you could have caught.Because girl you know he was not a virgin.Then, you need to get a pregancy test.Because you never know you ddidn't use a condom.Hope i helped!!:))
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011): First of all if you didnt use a condom i would suggest going to the doctor, just to put your mind at rest, they can do a pregnancy test aswel, even if there is a low chance. It would be one less thing to worry about and it will be confidential so it will be just between you and your doctor, so don't feel embarrassed.Ok you made tow big mistakes here; 1) sleeping with this guy that didnt want anything more than sex, while you had feelings for him 2) having sex without a condom.. You know you made these mistakes, don't beat yourself up about it your young and we all learn from our mistakes. Put it down to experience, but do go to your doctor.There is a saying i believe...You can't be old and wise if your were never young and stupid....we all learn from our mistakes. As for pretending it never happend just be normal around this guy, as if your not bother, it was nothing...he is nothing and just get on with your life.Good luck!x
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (8 April 2011):
 Ok - first things first, if you didnt use a condom YES you could be pregnant and you could have caught an STD. So go to your doctor and get tested.
In terms of him giving you a kidney infection - very unlikely, I'm not a doctor so dont know 100% for sure but I'm fairly certain you cannot catch kindney infections through having sex.
In terms of not thinking about it - afraid all you can do is give it time. Of course it will hurt for a while because you liked him and all he wanted was sex, so that is a shame but you just have to learn your lesson, give it a bit of time and move on. You will forget about it over the next few weeks, so be patient and dont worry if you are sad or hurting because this is totally normal.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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