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writes:Well... I have been mates with this boy "Mat" for quite a while and bout 2 months ago he told me he loved me, the problem was i had a boyfriend. Rumours spread my boyfriend found out nd after lots of arguements we split up. about a week after that "Mat" told me that he didnt love me... he said he thought he did but he realises that its not love. i wasnt to angry i was just upset that i had lost my boyfriend and my mates for him. We stayed mates and become quite close. i got a new boyfriend about a few ago and now hes doin the same agian. Last week he told me he loved me and he keeps sayin he does. I know people have told my boyfriend already i just hope he ignors teh silly things people say.Normally i would tell "Mat" to back off a bit but ive started to liek him to. i like him that much i am constantly thinking about him. I spend most of my time iwth him and i dont know where i would be aith out him. My question is what do i do to stop things gettin worse... what would be the best thing to do ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2008): Just stay with the person your with MAT obviously is a player and only wants you when he cant have you!! Forget about him he is a player soz :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007): I think you and mat deserve each other. Not only does he say he likes you when he cant have you but you like him when you cant have him. Obviousley you dont love your boyfriend or you would not be playing these silly games with mat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2007): Thanks for your help people. Ive spoken to my boyfriend and he said he knows the rumours are not true. But im still not sure who i like more "Mat" or him. And if i decide to go with Mat then will he do the same as he did before??
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (21 June 2007):
 He only likes you when he can not have you...he is playing a game like a scared little boy, and you are falling for it. What possible value does he even offer as a friend that you would keep him around at all?
-FBK
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2007): You say you "like him" but don't identify yourself this with love so perhaps you should wait a while and judge well what you have presently before you giving it away.
Sounds like choosing between the bird in your hand and the sparrow on the fence; this "Mat" sounds very undecided. What makes you believe he's truthful this time? I think in his case it may have been the psychological fear of losing what became of anothers', but the fact he wasn't constant that time is an alarm. If you do like him, before risking again you should have a serious conversation with him and ask him for example since when he has acknowledged the feeling, what does he see in a possible future...
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reader, reatachi  +, writes (21 June 2007):
 Okay, this is a strange situation! I would say talk to him, ask him what's up. Maybe he's afraid you don't feel the same way? You also might want to talk to your current boyfriend about it, because if he hears these things from the wrong people, words can be twisted and you could end up in a difficult situation. So talk to both of them (I wouldn't suggest doing it at the same time), and try to straighten some things out. Then make a decision - current boyfriend or "Mat".
Best of Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2007): hi
u obviously have feelings for this "mat" person so think about ur relasionship wiv him and ur relisionship wiv ur boyfrined do u and this boy get along as well as u and mat do if ur answer is no y don't u either concider being single for a while or go out wiv this mat guy unless u just want him as a friend then talk to him saying u love him too but as a friend it will all work out over time in the end u will be fine. y not go crazy and go out wiv a random person or even matt get to know them then u can start havin a real relasionship. remember at the end of the day its up 2 u
c ya
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