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*ana marie
writes:Im 21 and a month ago on a night out saw this gorgeous older man we looked at each other and smiled i instantly was attracted to him. I went over and we talked. we then went back to his hotel and made love. he is 43 i asked him was he separted from his wife he wouldnt answer at first. But then he addmited they were still together. i asked him did he love her he said they have good and bad days. his 2 daughters are 19 and 20.I tried to break away but he says he loves me. I love him to but dont want to hurt any one. Is he for true or could it be that he is having a midlife crisis?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2007): good story but what is going on now it would be good to know
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2007): any updates ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007): u jumped into bed straight away .sounds like u didnt waste any time .ask yourself if its worth breaking up a family on the basis of a one night stand unless u r still seeing him .this isnt worth the hassle
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reader, Dagwood  +, writes (23 April 2007):
 Hi Lana, He could be having a mid-life crisis; perhaps he’s just bored at home after having sex with the same person for so long. He was obviously flattered when you approached him! Maybe he's cheated before? He certainly seemed to hop in the sack with you without too much thought. Dragonette has given you more than enough reasons why you should not pursue this affair any further besides the fact that cheating is wrong! Even if you're single you're still going to contribute to the break-up and heartache of a family. Is this what you want to do? Are these the principles and values that you've defined for yourself? Think very hard about it and my advice is don't do it! End it now. I'm sure you'll do the right thing. Take care.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (23 April 2007):
 Not to be harsh, but I think that a married guy who sleeps with other people than his wife, probably is having a crisis of one sort or another.
He probably have some fonds feeling for you, but I doubt that getting into a relationship with him will do you any good for the following reasons:
1. He is married, and breaking off from your wife is a long process. A lot of married men who find themselves a mistress like telling her stories of how they're about to get divorced and stuff when in reality they haven't even filed for divorce and have no intention of doing so.
2. Let's say he would leave his wife for you, would you really want to be with him, seeing as he has already cheated on his wife, he might do the same thing to you someday.
3. His oldest daughter is but one year younger than you. She would probably not take it too well that dad left her for a woman her own age. And seeing as she is his daughter, you would run into her quite a few times if the two of you would have a relationship.
So, in short: save yourself the heart ache. I'd hate to rain on your parade, but this guy doesn't sound like a good boyfriend-material to me.
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