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writes:Well i've been talking to this guy for about 5 months already. During that time I started to have feelings for him becuz he is a really nice guy i've never met anyone like him. He called me a couple of days ago to tell me that i should get over him becuz supposely am liking him too much and i was like ok. I was surprised that he also told me that i act like if i was his girlfriend. I was confused becuz he is the one who always calls me late at night and i never call him. So anyways during the conversation when he told me to get over him he made me promise him that i would always love him so i promised him that. Then out of no where he says oh yeah by the way I owe you a kiss. He wants me to meet him in the park so that way he could give me a kiss. He told me to promise him that no matter what happen that i will always call him ''daddy''. I need advice this boy is really confusing me.What should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, bladefisher35  +, writes (23 April 2007):
this is called transferense. he's basically putting his confused feelings onto you. he wants to feel powerful in the sense that someone loves him, and he is disregarding it. in other words, he wants to believe that he is the one pulling all the strings.. love me, no don't, but love me anyway. it's powerful to feel in control of anothers happiness or unhappiness.
this is a classic sign of fear of being in love and ultimately hurt. anyone that wants to play with anothers emotions is dangerous as far as i'm concerned and you could be setting yourself up for some real confusing feelings of on.. no off.
it also shows that he is insecure, take him in hand.. no really, tell him you like him,but your not in love, his behaviour is strange, but if he would like to go out with you, to get real, and start respecting your time and attention. tell him you've got better things to do then play his sad games, and if he wants love he's got to give it. if he doesn't then to go away and play with someone else's feelings. you deserve better.
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