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writes:I had a boyfriend for 4 years and he was amazing but i felt like i needed something new so during the summer i met someone i really enjoyed being with and i broke up with my boyfriend and started dating this other guy immediately. 2 months after hangin out i got pregnant. i got married 3 months later. and a week after the wedding i had a miscarriage. its been about four months since the wedding but i am soo depressed. i dont find my husband sexually attractive at all anymore i am actually replused by the thought of it. everything he does annoys me. i dont want to be married anymore i feel trapped and tricked into marriage. i feel stuck and i want to get a divorce but i am too embarrassed. i feel all alone and like i was meant for more than this. and on top of all of that i miss the one i was with for 4 years every night. what should i do?thank you guys for reading this every answer helps.
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reader, metoo1124 +, writes (5 March 2009):
metoo1124 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hey everybody thank you for your replies. i think i just needed to vent that night. its been about a month since i wrote that and i feel soo much better we talked and our marriage is back to amazing. i guess i just changed my attitude on the situation and my outlook on life changed.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (25 February 2009):
 Ignore " He deserves much better" from the anonymous poster below. What an awful thing to say to someone who's been through so much. And it is cowardice to put yourself as anonymous and think you can say whatever the hell you like.
Besides this, I think what you need to do is sit down with your husband and tell him that since the miscarriage, things haven't been the same and that you feel like you rushed into things from the beginning. Tell him it feels like things have gone so fast that you can't keep up with it and that this is making you very upset. Then I think you should tell him that you don't think you can carry on with this marriage and that a divorce will be the only way that you both can be happy.
Even if you don't mention a divorce at this point in time, talk to him and tell him how you feel. You may feel that the first time you talk to him, you need to give him warning that things arn't going well before talking to him again and saying that you want a divorce.
As for getting back with your ex, I'd suggest you deal with your marriage now and wait until the dust has all settled before going to talk to your ex about how you have been feeling otherwise it will seem that you just need another boyfriend and he will feel used. I'd suggest taking a time out before rushing back to your ex so you can work out what you want for sure.
Take care and good luck.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (25 February 2009):
 Aside from suffering from depression, I think the consequences of your hasty actions are finally catching up to you. A whirl-wind romance sounds great, but once things settle and the dust clears, you start to see things for what they really are.In my honest opinion, marriage because of a pregnancy is almost never the answer, especially if you have only been with the person for a short time.I would seek therapy first, from religious counsel or professional. I am hesitant to suggest divorce, but if you are really realizing that this guy isn't the one and you were only together for a baby, then maybe a divorce is what you need. Remember also, there are more guys out there than just these two. Try a fresh, clean start for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): Divorce the husband. Go back to the ex.It is not fair to your husband to be married to a personlike you. He deserves much better.
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