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writes:Hey, well i sorta need abit of help erm im 14 years old and i suffer from depression it was pretty bad and i situation happened about 2 months ago where i had to be hospitalized.But since then i have made a massive improvement and am slowly putting my life back together. I have sorted my sleeping and eating out my anxcity is gradulagy getting better and i am moveing school makeing a fresh start to get away from alot of the crap.So all in all i am makeing brillaint improvements, but theres one thing that still bothers me and i could do with some help.Before i went up to highschool i had alot of friends i now have 1 left and it might be 2 by tomorow. but i had two really good friends ill call them Conrad and Lucas (Fake Names)First of all they were the best friends i ever had and when i think back to all the memorys we shared together it hurts so much. every now and then they pop into my head or a song reminds me of them i know it sounds bad but i just want to forget i ever meet them.Lucas was abit of a attention seeker and wanted to be the center of attention always. He decided to fall out with me for no reason i tryed to ask him why and he just never gives me an answer. i always feel like it was my and i wish i had him back :(Conrad fell out with me because he fancyied me and i sorta like him but i kept changeing my mind and didnt know what to say so eventally i siad no and then we grew apart. I alwways hold that against myself and wish i had said yes and things would be different. I just miss them so much ive tryed to make a mends with both of them but my efforts went un-noticed.I know in order to be able to make new friends at my new school i need to stop dwelling on the past and move on. i want to get better from my depression and this is the only thing holding me back.Its almost been a year since i fell out with them how do i move on please help :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou soo much :) I will try my best to move on i know it will be hard but i shall try.
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reader, Eilish +, writes (11 March 2011):
 If they were such good friend they would have been with you at your time of need, not falling out with you. Where were they when you needed them? By the looks of it, you would have been there for them, but they didn't for you. Even when you were hospitalized. The attention seeker, isn't worth it. If he wants to fall out with you for no reason then he is just pathetic. He wants to grow up and get a grip if you ask me. As for the other one, he obviously cannot face rejection. You might have said no because you didn't want to lose him as a friend, but did anyway. And he just couldn't have handled that.Anyway, these two boys have been very selfish. They should have been supporting you after they know about your depression, not falling out with you.I know how you feel, I had friends who I miss terribly, but ever since they started driving they have totally forgot about me. They hang about with other girls who can drive now. It's sad, but whenever I arrange to see them they always refuse. For no reason. But now I've learnt that they aren't worth the worry and upset.Yes, sometimes friends do move on, and it's a sad process. But we have to learn that the true friends will stay. These, are obviously not true friends, in both our cases. Therefore, you have to accept that they have moved on. You will still have the memories, but in life we love and lose I'm afraid, thats the way it goes.Hope you get better and make a lot of new friends sweetheart. Much love, and hope I helped.xxx
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