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30-35,
anonymous
writes:What have i done!I feel like im at school getting bullied.. I had a one night stand a few days ago.. and now the boy i done it with is saying things that happened that i dont even no about because i was drunk.. its really getting to me because everytime i go out im scared the people he has told will say horrible things to me! What do u think is the best way to get through it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2007): Hi there...Okay. First, let's clarify one thing: you did nothing wrong. So you had a drunken one night stand- well, despite what some people will say, most of us will have one night stands in our lives, especially drunken ones! There is nothing wrong with that. Now, please accept your action and learn from it. It is not a big deal, okay hun? What is a problem is that the guy you did it with is not mature enough to make the experience enjoyable for the both of you. Whatever his reasons, (insecurities etc...), his behavior is a bullying behavior. If his actions get worse, please talk to a good friend or relative (better a sibling) about what is happening and how you feel. They will give you the support you need. Confronting him will not make it easier and although getting back at him by telling others fibs about him may sound very tempting to you right now (at least it would to me!), resist that feeling because you are better than that.Try not to worry about what others are saying- what matters it what you think of yourself. Don't let others put you down. Only you can judge and know of your actions. Noone else has that right.Best of luck xxx
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (20 April 2007):
 Consider it a lesson learned and put it behind you. Hold your head up and act like the class act that you really are. Never stoup to that behavior again and your good reputation will return. Good luck, honey.
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reader, penta +, writes (20 April 2007):
 I had the almost the same thing happen to me when I was your age. I wish I had better advice to give you, but all I have for you is that years from now it really won't matter. Go about your life and don't get yourself into that position again.
I don't know if anything would have been different if I had had the courage to confront him in front of others -- it's the only thing I wish I had done. But the whispers around me were really hard to take, so I really feel for you hon'. Take care of yourself, and just keep trudging through.
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