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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I grew up with 4 sisters, two older by a few years, and twin younger sisters a year younger than me. All my sisters are very pretty and get lots of attention from guys. However, I've always been very introverted, and socially awkward, and have never been able to talk to girls without feeling nervous. Sometimes, I feel the only girls who are willing to talk to me are my sisters. When I'm around them, I feel very relaxed and that I can say anything that's on my mind (which has gotten me into trouble with them a few times...). However, once I leave the house and see other girls, I get very shy and am too nervous to approach girls. I'm 31 now, and still single, never had a girlfriend, and all my sisters are now married and it feels like I'm a loser whenever we get together as they all have husbands and I can't even manage to find a date. I've thought about hiring an escort to come with me, but I know my sisters will see right through the illusion. I thought growing up with sisters, I'd learn how to be comfortable around women, but I guess that was a big assumption. My sisters are aware of how I feel, and they do feel bad for me, and they're always willing to give me advice, but it never seems to work. They are honest with me and have told me in the past that they find me incredibly awkward to be around, but since I'm their brother, they're willing to cut me some slack and let me approach them, even though I often sound like a broken record to them.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (9 April 2017):
 You are judging your whole life on the basis of whether you can get a date. That is rather limiting as you must have other things going on in your life.
Many men find it hard to approach women in social situations. Do you have interests or hobbies that you could get more involved in? That is an ideal way to meet people "easily" as you immediately have a topic of conversation.
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (9 April 2017):
If your own sisters tell you are awkward to be around...you are definitely awkward for women to be around!
Have you asked your sisters how you might make them more comfortable with you and how you might better approach girls? Do you have guy friends who might be truthful with you? Without actually spending time with you, it is nearly impossible to figure out what is going on here. So you need to look for help from those you know as well as a psychologist or counselor. You may be lacking self confidence, but there could also be more involved.
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