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writes:That day,my brother was messaging to his friend.Suddenly he said playfully that he wants me and his friend to date.Its very rare for my brother to say such thing.Did his friend said anything about me?Once,I gifted shoes for my brother and his friend playfully messaged if I bought anything for him to my brother.I saw the message in my brother's phone.My brother kept talking about him like he is fun,cute,nice..etc..etc.My family are planning a surprise birthday party for my brother.We wanted to invite all his friends to surprise him, to our house.His friend is not in my facebook and instagram and we rarely talk.I messaged him in instagram inviting him to the party.He suddenly changed his account from public to private.So I guess he know that i sent him a message but he did not open the thread and read it.I feel so hurt that he ignored me.I can't understand if he likes me or not.Im confused.I dont know why he change his profile to private after i sent him a message and why he ignored my message.I really likes him ever since my brother started to talk about him to me.
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reader, Juliet94 +, writes (12 April 2017):
Juliet94 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really likes him a lot.I can only date him if this relationship will last forever.As in we must get married.If not this will afftect their friendship.even no matter how much he likes me,Im very sure he will not make a move as I know that he is such a loyal and trustwhorthy friend to my brother.He knows i messaged him.if he likes me,He could have taken advantage of the situation by talking to me.But he doesn't.This is a sign that he is just staying away from me.I will stay away from him as well.I only started to like him after my brother talked in a way that his friend likes me.I guess they just joked about it and did not do it intentionally.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 April 2017):
 You should find men who you want to date and stay away from your brothers friends. Maybe your brother may have passed some comments, my guess is he probably passed some comments to his friend as well. My guess is the friend is not interested in you and he probably set his page to private as he may have got from your brother that you like him and he is not interested.
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reader, Juliet94 +, writes (11 April 2017):
Juliet94 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI thought the same.if he doesn't want to loose his friendship,I will stay away from him.But the thing is my brotehr sounds to be ok if we both date.Because my brother is the one who said we wants us to date.He has some friends whom he doesn't allow me to date.But this is the only guy he seems to be ok.Shall I ask my brother about it?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (10 April 2017):
 If he changed his profile from public to private AFTER you messaged him, I'd say either he is NOT all that interested OR he has stuff on Instagram he doesn't want you to see... AS in another girl?
From what you write it doesn't sound like he has the hots for you. You are the sister of his best Buddy.
But let's entertain the notion for a minute that he DOES like you - if he feels that would be a bad thing for the friendship then I say STAY far away from that. I have BEEN in the situation and dated my older brother's best friend and while he was/is a REAL nice guy he just wasn't a good match and I do think it changed the dynamics for my brother and him. I don't regret dating him, but I do regret the effect it had on their friendship (and we even ended it on good terms).
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reader, Juliet94 +, writes (9 April 2017):
Juliet94 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi there.I thought the same thing.There could be something going on between them.Maybe this guy could have shown some interest in me or maybe it could be just my brother's opinion that he want us to date.But I don't understand why he ignored my message.Is it a sign that he is avoiding me because he likes me as this guy doesn't want to loose my brother friendship.He is a very loyal friend.or is it avoiding me because he isn't really interested in me.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (9 April 2017):
 Here's a thought: as your brother talks about him in such terms, is it possible he and your brother have something going on between them? Just thinking aloud as men don't usually talk about their friends in such terms unless they are personally interested in them.
Unless this guy actually shows you some interest, I would completely ignore what your brother is saying.
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