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writes:Hi, This is a strange one. At the weekend i went out with my girlfriend (drinking). She's a smoker and ran out of cig's, She ask some guy for a fag and sat down chatting for 30 mins to this guy while i was playing a game of poker with friends. After 10 mins i went up to her and asked if she would join us (playing poker), she turned around and said "not yet". 5 mins after i asked her the guy she was with came up to me and said "if you don't leave that girl alone (my girlfriend) he was going to kick my Fing head in" he then continued to threated me. I felt very insecure. I have no idea why this guy would have come up to me and said that out of the blue. My girlfriend can't remember what she said to this guy. Is it possible that she provoked his reaction? Also is it strange that when she's been drinking she'll become very chatty to strangers? when we entered the bar she spent 10 mins chatting to the bouncer, then chatting to the guy who threatened me! when she came back to the table we left. I can't go back into the place through fear.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (26 February 2007):
 You have to drink one hell of a lot not to remember things the next day. I'm talking alcoholic style drinking, not normal going out with your mates and getting drunk. The point I'm trying to make is not that your girlfriend is an alcoholic but that maybe you shouldn't be so believing and trusting that she can't remember. I wouldn't worry about when she's out with her friends. The quickest way to end a relationship is through insecurity about your partner so try and nip that in the bud and I guess just be cautious when you go out with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIm unsure what to think, if she goes out with her mates and im not around what is she going to get up to? I trust her not to anything when she's sober thats not the person she is but, when shes drunk how can i trust her when she does things like this?. I so confused, i love her so much. Will i ever trust her to go out alone drinking with friends? I hope so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe's an amazing person when she hasn't been drinking. I've asked her if she remembers anything and she says she doesn't. I believe her but, im so worried about what happened. I don't want to end the relationship, is there anything i can do to prevent this happening or shall i tell her that i don't think its wise she drinks to get drunk? there's being friendly and then being "fiendly". I trust her fully and believe she would never cheat on me, I just find this behavour very odd. I know the excuse "i was drunk" isn't a good one and she hasn't used it but, it happened when she was. She's done other things when shes drunk (insulted me personaly). She's always felt bad after but never remembers. Im not perfect by any means and have made my fair share of mistakes. Thanks for the advice so far.
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reader, nicola79 +, writes (26 February 2007):
 Hiya, I do agree with cd206,she must know more than she is telling you. That is horrible what she did to you.
Have it out with her and tell her if she cant handle her drink and making a fool of her self then its a matter of, not going out places with her or to finish with her.
She is putting you in danger flower,and next time you never know if one of these blokes may lash out at you??
It sounds to me that while chatting to him she may have said that she doesnt want to be with you and that she liked him? I understand that she is your girlfriend but for gods sake what a nasty horribe person to do that to you.
You could do so much better my love, its now left in your hands what to do???
Please keep me posted. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, cd206 +, writes (26 February 2007):
There are two options here. Possibly your girlfriend was into this guy and told him you weren't her boyfriend so it looked like you were a crazy random stalker when you kept approaching her or perhaps he just wanted to warn you off because he's interested in your girlfriend. The only way to know is to ask your girlfriend outright. I have a feeling she remembers more than she's letting on.
CD
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